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Messed up at a work event - please help

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HoneyDewBee · 16/06/2025 12:52

I promised myself this year I wouldn't get so drunk at our annual work event out of three nights, I ended up pretty pissed on one of them.
The work event was three days long, and by day two, I was exhausted and had eaten very little. We had a lot of wine and by 2am, I was very drunk. I was with colleagues and asked them the next morning if I was inappropriate at all and they said I was fine, just not making much sense and forgot which hotel I was staying at. Apparently then I remembered and took myself to bed.
I can't remember much of this but Im sure I looked a mess. I'm worried I'm not being told that I was an asshole. My partner is insecure and now I'm afraid that I did something blackout drunk to hurt our relationship like flirting or trying to make a pass at someone. I know this is very unlikely as i was apparently trying to call my partner from 1am to 3am and when he did answer, I gave the phone to one of my male colleagues to tell him where I was. He told my boyfriend he would make sure I got back to my room and I have a message from this colleague saying he hopes I'm back OK..

I feel incredibly embarrassed and paranoid and just want to die. Noone seems too upset with me but not being able to remember is hard. Drinking at these things is just not worth it.
Please offer some support if you can. Does it sound that bad?

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Thisisthedawningoftheageofaquarius · 16/06/2025 12:55

That’s the post drink anxiety - totally normal. Work colleagues are usually very quick to tell you if you’ve done something untoward!!
Try to take as a lesson for the next outing; but don’t beat yourself up anymore!

Hysterectomynext · 16/06/2025 13:08

Stop drinking it’s not worth it.
this is normal after effect horrors.
try not to feel bad anymore but use this experience to end the behaviour. It’s so dangerous and so damaging

KPPlumbing · 16/06/2025 13:18

Seriously, relax. You're fine. People do all kinds of mad shit when they're drunk, and it's forgotten about quickly (or barely noticed in the first place).

But - I don't drink at work events for this reason. The paranoia the next day. It's not worth it for me. I KNOW everything is fine, but my brain will torment me regardless.

I only drink more than 2 drinks around my friends.

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