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Drink driving - child

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Luna978 · 03/06/2025 18:20

So I found out my at the time partner had drunk drove home after a night out. He wasn’t just slightly drunk either (not that that would be ok either), but he was black out drunk and passed out when he got home. I only realised well into the next day that he had done it when I saw the car outside when he had told me he was leaving it overnight at the train station. He refused to talk to me about it and screamed and slammed doors when I tried to. This obviously upset our toddler so I felt like I couldn’t broach the subject. He left a week later and is now threatening getting 50/50 in court. I didn’t report this at the time because I felt like it wouldn’t be taken seriously considering I found out after the incident. I am now however extremely worried that he could drink drive with our toddler. I am scared of reporting it cause I don’t know if it’ll be taken seriously after months have gone by and also because he will most certainly go to court to try and get full custody of Lo or something crazy if he realises I’ve reported him. Has anyone else been in this situation?

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Olderbeforemytime · 03/06/2025 18:22

I don’t think it’s worth reporting. He can’t be breathalysed for it now. It would just be your word, the word of a recent ex, that he appeared drunk verus him saying he didn’t drink and drive.

Luna978 · 03/06/2025 19:21

Olderbeforemytime · 03/06/2025 18:22

I don’t think it’s worth reporting. He can’t be breathalysed for it now. It would just be your word, the word of a recent ex, that he appeared drunk verus him saying he didn’t drink and drive.

I did think this too. I contacted a lawyer and they said that it could look like I’m suddenly trying to make him seem like a criminal should it go to court. The only thing I can think is that there would most likely be text evidence of it all as I suspect he gave someone a lift on the night.. I just don’t know.

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Olderbeforemytime · 03/06/2025 21:04

Luna978 · 03/06/2025 19:21

I did think this too. I contacted a lawyer and they said that it could look like I’m suddenly trying to make him seem like a criminal should it go to court. The only thing I can think is that there would most likely be text evidence of it all as I suspect he gave someone a lift on the night.. I just don’t know.

That would prove he drove but won’t prove he was over the limit.

mindutopia · 04/06/2025 16:32

I’ll be completely honest with you, I don’t know many people who haven’t stupidly gotten in a car and driven when they shouldn’t have. People do it all the time. You’d be amazed how many glasses of wine some people have at Sunday lunch at the pub, but think it’s fine because they aren’t coming from a house party. Is it stupid and irresponsible? Yes. Is it worth reporting in isolation? No.

However, if he has a problem with alcohol, is regularly drink driving, is drinking heavily in sole charge of the children, is he drinking every day and becoming aggressive? Keep a log of all these things because it shows a pattern of behaviour.

F1LandoFan · 04/06/2025 16:36

I can honestly say I have never ever had more than one drink and driven my car. Ever. And neither have any of my friends to my knowledge.

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