Alcoholic Partner Maybe Missing

[Yogabearr]

I posted recently about my partner of 2 years with whom I was having problems, the main one being lone alcohol binges and the pattern of injuring himself, being so ill after drinking for 3 or 4 days, the apologies the broken promises. So upsetting, and I've abandoned myself. I've tried everything and now I'm an anxious mess. My last strength this weekend went to blocking him whilst he'd broken another boundary, lied, got mouthy from afar etc whilst drunk, but denying it. I quietly left his belongings at my friend's house in case he needs anything, but can't contact me. I then caved and unblocked him and he has seemingly disappeared. No turning up drunk. He lives in a sort of unconventional place near the canal. Now the guilt and fear has kicked in. Will he poison himself, is he OK etc. It's torturous. My older children are affected. I'm about to go to work with intense anxiety. What is the thinking behind him choosing this or doing this? I need someone who knows more.

Having some experience of addictive behaviour,

• you didn't cause his behaviour
• You can't prevent his behaviour
• He prioritises his addiction over you

Leave him to it, don't make it your problem. He will no doubt resurface soon in order to give you a whole new load of misery.

But you know this already.

This OP.

Protect yourself from the never ending cycle of destructive misery.

Good god op

stop thinking about him and channel all your energy and focus in to salvaging something of your children’s childhood

Why are you putting yourself and your children through this? You are not responsible for his welfare or his carer. He is a grown adult and needs to take responsibility for himself.
Are you always attracted to people who need rescuing?

Your only responsibility is towards your children, not hopeless drunks. Start being a proper mother.

Didn't you post about this recently and everyone told you to put your children first . And that he won't change. And not your responsibility to make him change or look after him. Especially as he seems to be quite abusive.
You know the steps you need to take . For your own mental health and the relationship you have with your children.

It's you again. You have been given excellent advice on this and previous thread. Heed this advice, dump him and pour you energies into providing the best life you can for your children.

Repeatedly

achieved squat all

Nothing changes if nothing changes. Does it matter what his thinking is behind these appalling actions? Who cares other than you? Because he doesn't, that's obvious. Time to prioritise your children and yourself.