How can I help brother stop drinking?

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My brother is 30 yo and is an alcoholic but won’t admit to it. He still lives at home with our mum
and dad and it’s putting a strain on their marriage now.
He is sick every-time he drinks and he can’t eat anything without bringing it back up, this is everyday.
He has been in hospital and told it’s because of his drinking. Whilst he was there he was eating and drinking again normally but as soon as he was out he was back to the alcohol and it’s all started again.
Iv list friends through alcoholism and I’m scared I’m going to loose him too.
If he carries on he’s only going to a couple of years left.

Anybody have any suggestions please?
thanks

I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you, I know the worry and toll it takes on the family. I don't really have any advice I'm sorry, My Brother is currently in rehab, he went into 'detox' for 2 weeks last year but a month or so later was back drinking.
He has been in rehab for 3 months now and has had huge success so far, the main reason....
Counselling and mental health support.
He has had things happen in his life he would never discuss with the family so the counselling was the biggest part for him and he now openly talks about his mental health and how it was deteriorating leading him to drink.
I am sorry I cannot offer any advice I just wanted you to know you are not alone and I carry the same worry, I just try and do my best to support and love them and help where I can and unfortunately I now accept that ultimately the decision will always lay with them to stop drinking or decide when enough is enough and get the help they need there is only so much we can do on the side lines.
I hope things get better for you and your family and he can get the support he needs x

This is such a difficult situation to be in, I offer my deepest sympathy.
Unfortunately there's nothing you or anyone can say to your brother to help him stop drinking. His brain has physiologically changed due to addiction.

A lot of people in AA believe in such a thing as a "rock bottom" for alcoholics which is the time they face losing everything or even face certain death, before they stop drinking. That it needs to get to that point for anything to change.

Try and find support for yourself from Al-Anon which is a support group for people with an alcoholic in their lives. Try bringing your brother to . These support groups are free (/self-supporting) .

Try bringing your brother to .

^try bringing your brother to an AA meeting that was meant to say.

You can't stop him from drinking, but you can help yourself and your family.

SMART recovery have a family and friends support group, and also a book which you can work through. It will help with how you engage with your brother and his drinking. Help you to look after yourself, and to have healthy boundaries.

He could also go to the support groups, or you could get him the book. Obviously you can't make him read the book, but it will show him you are trying to help him.

The SMART family and friends meetings are online, if there isn't one near to you.

It's awful, watching someone damage themselves through drinking. Has he got thiamine prescribed by the GP? I would encourage him to take these and vitamins.

You can’t. He’s won’t admit to being an alcoholic. You can only look after yourself.

The best thing would be for your parents to tell him he has to move out in a month.

They're enabling him and putting their marriage at risk.

He's a grown up and it's past time he starts being responsible for himself.

No-one can help him, he has to do this himself. You could give him contact details for AA or SMART locally, but that's all.

You all need to detach emotionally because it's not a good prognosis

There's virtually nothing you can do as your brother doesn't even want to admit yet that he has a problem at all.

I think really that you can only distance yourself from it, for your own sanity. You can get him all the books you like and point him in the direction of AA, but if he doesn't even recognise the problem then it is unlikely to achieve anything much. You'll probably feel that at least you tried though, even if you have to accept getting nowhere with it.

My BIL (DH's brother) is an alcoholic so I am very aware of the effects on the family. DH and I have very little relationship with him now. DH does speak to him maybe a couple of times a year, but it is strained.

In Australia they offer a naltrexone implant to stop alcoholism

I don't think you can do anything to help him. It's an illness and part of the cruelty is that they can't recognise or accept that it's happening to them.

It is so hard to watch it happen and to feel powerless. I found counselling for myself helpful when my parent went through it.

You still need the person to admit that they have a problem and want to stop drinking before they would even be likely to accept the treatment or bother to take it.

OP's brother is in denial that there is anything wrong.