Suddenly no interest in wine anymore..

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I've been a long time lurker on this topic as I have always loved the buzz of alcohol and then following a harrowing divorce and left with sole responsibility for my high needs kids, I drowned out my sadness and loneliness in a bottle to 1.5 bottles approx 5 nights per week for a few years. Covid lockdowns accelerated this.

I always knew it was too much and I did really dumb and dangerous stuff while drinking. My father was an alcoholic, absent in every way until he sobered up but then it was too late.

I've done lots of therapy and healing and find solace in yoga, meditation and breath work for the last few years and over the last few weeks have noticed that I'm simply sick of alcohol. I have plenty of it at home , decide to open a bottle but then decide I dont want it anymore.i
Prefer tea and biscuits instead.
Can I ask if this is a thing? If this has happened to anyone and what was the general outcome over time?
I don't have a physical aversion to it, just an apathy.
My kids are perhaps more self sufficient and healed now so that overwhelm and shock is gone entirely ie their dad leaving abruptly and showing no interest in them from then on.
I would love to hear if anyone else experienced this, thanks for reading .

Yes! Over the Christmas period, I have opened bottles because it felt like what I should be doing (and it’s what I normally do), but I have ended up pouring the wine away.

I am embracing this, as I have been drinking too much for the past 40 years (with times of abstinence, but those weren’t easy for me).

Today I went for a celebration lunch and drank water, and then a decaf coffee.

I would be happy if this lasted forever.

I felt this way a couple of weeks ago. Ended up buying a teapot, loose leaf tea, tea strainer, nice cup and saucer. Now instead of enjoying the ritual of opening the wine, I have the ritual of tea making.
Think my head and body was tired of fighting the urge to drink at 4pm everyday and the wasting my nights dozing on the sofa unable to do much.
It's been quite an eye opener but with work starting again tomorrow, well I wonder if I'll feel the same. Fingers crossed.
My point being - embrace this for as long as you can, run with it and see if you feel mentally and physically better. Best of luck with it.

I'm exactly the same with it. I had 'flu over Christmas so drank one small glass of wine with my Christmas Lunch.

Opened a bottle NYE but didn't enjoy it. Tried another glass last night but again didn't enjoy it. Think I actually now prefer tea.

Yesterday I bought myself some Elderflower Cordial and some Sparkling Water so I'm going to give that a try tonight.

Interesting in what your all saying I’ve heard many a time on sober podcasts that you don’t have to hit the rock bottom a majority of people who get sober just wake up one day and do it strangely must be the right time.
The majority of the time I can take or leave alcohol but I do get intense cravings and more so when I go sober alcohol is on my mind constantly during my dry days it’s almost as if the demons want to drag me back down the road of despair 😂 I managed 75 days last year I’m currently day 5 and I’m trying to get to 100 days at the minimum this time. Good luck to you and I hope the cravings stay at bay!!

I was a huge binge drinker when I was young, when I was in my twenties I enjoyed a few glasses of wine, now I drink a couple glasses of wine a year. I stopped drinking because it made me feel dehydrated and I wasn't enjoying it, now it's just not a part of life.

How old are you, OP? I don’t have an issue with alcohol but in recent years it would be things like drinking too much in total during Christmas holidays (every night with no break, maybe 2 big glasses of wine and sometimes a glass with lunch if I felt like it). Just because it was Christmas and I was off work. I stopped no problem as soon as I went back to work in previous Januarys, no cravings or anything.

I’m over 50 now though and for me the enjoyment of drinking wine routinely has gone as the effects on my body now aren’t worth it. I feel terrible next day, it feels exactly like I’ve poisoned myself (which let’s face it, I have). I just can’t tolerate it the same at all. I really have to be in the mood to have a glass of wine with my evening meal. I never would have thought I’d say that. I even went to a pub just before Christmas and got a soft drink because I just didn’t fancy any alcohol at all.

i think menopause has a lot to do with it.

I have been a drinker like you most of my adult life. Last year I decided to lose weight, and realised if I was serious I would need to stop drinking for a while. So I did. And I haven't since then - it's been months. What surprised me most was that I haven't missed it. At all. So it absolutely can happen. I have no plans to return to life as it was. I am quite all or nothing (autistic) so I don't know if one day I will choose to just drink sometimes or not - I feel like if I did the old habits would return. But I am happy not drinking.

@CurlyhairedAssassin You might be right about menopause, that's me too. I just can't be bothered with it.

I'm 49 years old , started menopause and hrt four years ago and my sleep is distorted since. I found that after a night out or lots of wine, I was anxious, emotional and had right sided and upper stomach pain so thought, sod this my body is shouting no.

I just simply cannot be bothered. Before now I would never have had wine in the house unintentionally as I would open it just because it was in the refrigerator. It definitely gave me a happy burst when I was sad and relieved stress when needed but now don't need those anymore so maybe that's why I've lost interest.
Maybe it has served its purpose for me?
Hopefully the weight and bloatedness will leave my body also.

Yes, this is it. It’s not worth the aggro anymore. When I was young I could have a night out and drink a lot and enjoy the feeling. The hangover next day was usually gone by midday and on I went on with the rest of my day and evening.

Gradually this has switched over to be the opposite. If I go out and drink a lot I don’t get a buzz past one or 2 drinks. Instead I feel hugely drunk on much more unless sipping very slowly over a long time, I feel out of control and not in a good way, and if it’s at lunchtime then the rest of the day is a write off because I’ll just feel too sleepy or fall asleep and wake in the evening feeling sluggish and just bleurgh. If it’s an evening night out I’m usually tired to start with (unlike when I was younger), and more than a couple of drinks would finish me off and I’ll be ready to go home, then feel terrible next morning, sluggish for the rest of the day and basically feel I’d wasted a day of the weekend. And I’ll look like death. it affects every part of my body now much more than it ever did, and much quicker.

I feel like this. I am 44 and really enjoyed wine (normally I drank 2 to 3 bottles of wine a week over Thurs, Fri and sat night). I just suddenly started to loose interest in it about 6 weeks ago. I did have some champagne on Christmas day then a bottle of wine on the 28th but I woke up the next day and just thought I don't want to drink wine or alcohol or anymore. I haven't touched a drop since. I did have a minor fancy on Friday night for wine but an alcohol free cider in a nice glass soon stopped that craving.

I feel so terrible after drinking and it takes me days to recover after a heavy session it doesn't seem worth it.

Weirdly and for the first time in my
Life, I'm falling asleep on the sofa each evening for an hour or so. I've no reason to be tired but this coupled with a sudden disinterest in wine is kind of unsettling me!
Regardless, I'm delighted that I don't have the awful couple of days of feeling subpar after alcohol and also that my mind is relaxed enough to sleep.

It could also be the sugar drop. Wine has a lot of sugar which means your body is adjusting to much less of it so may be tired a bit etc. Whatever it is it's so good for your body to stop drinking alcohol. I am only on my 9th day without it and already feel better. I actually am doing DJ but I decided to do it after feeling so put of by wine and the hangover. I thought it would be much harder but it's not.

I have kind of lost interest in it too, but I find that eventually it seems to creep up again so I am watching this side of things