Why can I only drink with my husband?

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I am going through a medically introduced menopause and have been for 2 years.
Since then everytime I drink with friends, I get horrendous anxiety the following day that lasts for days.
I have started to restrict my social activities and drive to the majority but now even a couple of glasses gets me tipsy.
I had a bottle of prosecco on Friday, and was tipsy but ok and I've beaten myself up for half of the conversations that I had.
I'm fine having a few with my husband but with friends I'm beginning to think it's a no go - is this normal ?

Hangsiety! The first sign I was drinking too much was what your describing.
maybe have a little while off and give your body a rest if needed

how often are you drinking?

How much are you drinking and how often? Is the difference that having a drink with your husband exposes you to fewer people, fewer conversations etc? Is the issue that you don't remember properly what you said, or that you remember saying stupid things on a regular basis to your friends? Or that you simply drink a lot more when you're with your friends, and less when you're with DH?

You're comfortable enough with your husband that you know even if you say something stupid he's not going to care or be upset with you about it, so the hangxiety has nothing to kick in over.

It actually says good things about your marriage.

4 or 5 times a year , I hardly touch it now but when I do I overtime for days

I was thinking the same thing.

And maybe it’s worth a little reflection on the dynamics with your friends.

4 or 5 timed a year, and I think you are right, I drink slower with him and maybe only have 2 glasses of wine compared to maybe a bottle or 4/5 gins with friends. I relax and say stupid things and make so many plans to socialise only do regret it all the next day

and this includes drinking with your husband?

Yes now it does, as said I've pretty much stopped altogether but have had 2 social events in 3 weeks both with friends. I've been driving everywhere for months. I had a few drinks in Sept with my hubby and was fine, had a few at both these events and I am still overthinking.
I am thinking of abstaining completely but I was just keen to understand if this is an individual thing or if other people have similar reactions

but if it’s 2 occasions a year with friends and then 2/3 occasions with your DH a year… then i really wouldn’t give this another thought !