partner is quite obviously an alcoholic - he drinks every single night as soon as he finishes work. religiously has 4 cans of beer and a large bottle of beer a night, hides it, lies about it etc etc
we have 2 young children who he is honestly fantastic with i can’t fault him at all. but i am struggling mentally with being with him - ive tried numerous times to help him and numerous times its failed. hes been the doctors, contacted alcohol and drug helplines but its never gone further than just initial contact
he’s said in the past that he’s not aggressive, provides well for us etc which is true…so why am i still contemplating leaving and splitting our family up? i grew up with a father who quite frequently abused alcohol, i would never know where i stood…whether he’d be in a good mood or a bad mood. and on a couple of occasions he did get physical with me (pushed me, got me by the neck once and pushed me against a wall)
he’s a great guy, has a great job, friends and family love him. but i feel exhausted
would i be stupid to stay? stupid to leave?
god it’s tough.