Need to stop

[Onslow1985]

I need to stop or stop binge drinking once and for all. Great night on Friday night spoilt by me drinking the same as my friends but unable to handle it. They were also steaming drunk but I fall over and was sick when I got home. Writing this for accountability, sick of embarrassing my husband at events. My friends look after me but say I’m harmless and lots of fun but I have no off switch just hits me like a ton of bricks at the end of the night. Spoilt my weekend with the hangover from hell too. Disrupted sleep and anxiety. Embarrassed about falling over in public too. Really down and beating myself about it

Sorry, this might happen once or twice in a year but ongoing for several years & the feelings of embarrassment and shame I get afterwards are crippling.

Don’t drink what your friends drink. I can’t handle wine, spirits or anything stronger than 4 percent. Switch to fruity cider and drink pint water before you start.. and before bed. 3 pints is my limit, then home. No matter what, home. Book taxi before you go out. When you go to bar order water when you get there.. with whatever you’re drinking. If beer is your thing, order shandy and tell em more 7 up than beer.. and choose your nights out, if it’s sit n drink night, avoid, if it’s food, ok, dancing, ok..

I agree I just need to learn this. So many nights out ruined for the shame I feel the day after and I don’t want my husband to be on edge when being out with me. I feel like I’m just letting him down and embarrass ing him all the time.

@Onslow1985 It's easy, stop drinking. My late husband was like you. I avoided going out with him due to the embarrassment. Also it's a total turn off watching an adult man behaving like a school boy. Your marriage will eventually fall apart. Please take heed.

Thank you, that’s a really scary thought but you’re right. I feel so depressed at the thought of that.

I have one gin and tonic at the start of the night, then just tonic after that. Nobody notices I’m ‘not drinking’ so I don’t get the social pressure. I enjoy the one alcoholic drink more because I’m drinking it a bit more mindfully. Would a simple rule like this work for you?

It definitely would & I’ve done it before. It’s just wine and Prosecco that I need to learn to not drink copious amounts of. My husband seems fine but I’m underneath it all I’m so frightened he’s sick of me.