Break up

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I need to break up with someone who has alcohol use disorder. I didn’t know when we started dating but it has gradually become clearer over the time we have got to know each other. They say it will never be possible to not drink and I have a child I need to put first. It feels awful, I think the decision I am making is right but can anyone reassure me or offer advice? I really care for them and want to be supportive.

It doesn’t matter how much you care about them. They care about alcohol more. Put your child first and break this off.

They are showing no interest in recovery. They have made the decision for you. I’m sorry, you have to end it.

You can break up with someone for whatever reason you want. It doesn't matter if they have a drinking problem. They aren't your responsibility. They are responsible for themselves.

I assume from what you've said that they are not the father of your child. If so, I think it becomes a bit trickier, because you need to maintain that relationship for your child's benefit. If they are not your child's father, let them lose. You can do it honestly and kindly, but you don't need to support them beyond that.

Put your daughter before an alcoholic if they can’t go a few days a week alcohol free for a partner and family they are very codependent with alcohol. Unfortunately people come use to larger and larger quantities of alcohol so it will only get worse… walk away