I get drunk every night

[MrsMaryMooFace]

I get drunk every night and I hate myself. I want to be a pyjamas and cuppa and tv person. But I also want to be able to drink at events.

Please help

Stop buying alcohol so it isn't there in your home.

Go to your GP and get referred for help.

You need help from AA but please look at your triggers as that will help you. Are you bored? Is of habit? The taste you enjoy? The smell? The feeling? Work out what it is and try distraction techniques. If your bored join a gym, book classes, take up a hobby, if it's the taste try a non alcoholic drink you love in a nice glass, if it's habit start forming new ones etc

I’m really sorry you’re in this position.

Can you reach out to someone in real life? Your Gp might be a good place to start, or see this link from Alcohol Change

Get help now

Perhaps start by thinking about your “why”: why do you get drunk every night? Why do you want to be able to drink at events?

It is possible to turn this round, but you need to want to change. Good luck

How useful, thanks. 🙄

Everyone else, thank you, I will be looking into all of your suggestions ❤

This sounds like my life!!!

My DB used to be like that, he is dead now.

OP, read some of the threads on alcohol support on here.

That was the person I was and the person I wanted to be.

i finally realised I couldn’t be that person. I could be either a drunk or a sober person.

I chose sobriety 2 years ago.

personally once I realised I was going to have to stop and moderating was not going to work given my addiction it was such a relief

I like the analogy of drinking being like a lift that only goes down. You can chose to get off at any point you like, but if you chose to get back on, it only goes down and never goes back up again. Drinking changes our brains, such that once you get into the habit of drinking regularly and for every emotion, you can't ever go back in time to be the sort of drinker who only has a few glasses of fizz at Christmas. It's a one way street for true problem drinkers.

Honestly, having stopped drinking (I'm 6 months sober next week), social events are not a big draw for me anymore in terms of drinking. Like I can go to a birthday or a BBQ or whatever and there is no appeal to have a few drinks. A few drinks would make me feel rubbish and I'd end up drinking 2-3 bottles of wine and then I'd get up the next day and do it again. Even if I could just have 2 drinks and stop and not drink the next day, it wouldn't appeal. I actually enjoy myself more not drinking now. I never thought I'd say that! So not being the sort of drinker who can just have a few at social events is no longer a loss. Don't let that stop you making your life better.

Find yourself some other people who are quitting drinking. Read some quit lit and listen to podcasts. Go to bed early. Re-start an old hobby you loved. Truly I was a 3 bottle of wine a day drinker, every day, and now I am in fact the sort of person who goes to bed early with a cup of herbal tea and a book. 😂My birthday was last week and all my presents were AF wine and spa products and herbal teas. It's actually wonderful. Life really can get better. Would you do 30 days? This Naked Mind and Bee Sober both do 30 day challenges that are supported. At least it will get you moving in that direction and exploring what it might be like.