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I can't do this anymore

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cantdothisanymorehelp · 01/10/2023 09:43

I can't do this anymore, once again I've been up all night drinking.
My DH has told me I'm getting a serious problem with drink as has his friends.

I was fine up till March when my dc was diagnosed with diabetes, and everything just spiralled from there.
My mental health is so so low, my mother in law has fallen out with me two months ago( our only family support local to us!), my family aren't near by. I don't have any friends bar DHs friends.
I don't work all I do all day is sit around the house looking forward to the kids going to bed and drinking and it's becoming a habit of 3-4 evenings a week and it's got to stop I need to think about my DC and put them first and get my mental health back under control.

This morning I've poured away all the drink in the house.
I need something to keep me busy in the days & nights that's productive any help please?
If I carry on and I see me loosing my children and they are the only thing worth living for.

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romdowa · 01/10/2023 09:51

You need to access support for your drinking , for your child's diabetes and your mental health. Contact your gp, there are online aa meetings and there are a few diabetes charities that run support groups for children and their care givers.

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cantdothisanymorehelp · 01/10/2023 09:55

romdowa · 01/10/2023 09:51

You need to access support for your drinking , for your child's diabetes and your mental health. Contact your gp, there are online aa meetings and there are a few diabetes charities that run support groups for children and their care givers.

Im worried about telling my GP as they will tell me I can't look after my son & his diabetes if I'm drinking.
Which I can as DH has been doing the lion share of it all but still the thought of social services terrifies me.

I'm on the list for the diabetes psychologist team, just waiting for it to come through. It's really screwing with my head, he nearly died in March and I can't forgive myself for it and every damn day I'm worried he'll go low & die. It's awful.

I never want to drink again, all the wasted money just to make me feel in a even darker hole.

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Polkadotjarmies · 01/10/2023 10:36

I think you need counselling as well as some alcohol support my lovely.
You've been through a trauma and the alcohol
Blocks it out but you can and will live without it.
Your son is here and you can look after him better if you're sober. It's not your fault what happened and you can be a great support now which is what matters. You can't look back - well you can but it doesn't change anything
Good luck

romdowa · 01/10/2023 12:09

cantdothisanymorehelp · 01/10/2023 09:55

Im worried about telling my GP as they will tell me I can't look after my son & his diabetes if I'm drinking.
Which I can as DH has been doing the lion share of it all but still the thought of social services terrifies me.

I'm on the list for the diabetes psychologist team, just waiting for it to come through. It's really screwing with my head, he nearly died in March and I can't forgive myself for it and every damn day I'm worried he'll go low & die. It's awful.

I never want to drink again, all the wasted money just to make me feel in a even darker hole.

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I'd go to the gp about the depression more than the drinking tbh. Is your son on any of the continous monitors like the libre or the dexcom ones? My father is a diabetic for over 17 years and has a brain injury. I've pulled him back from several hairy incidents including dka this year. The continuous monitor has given us a lot of security since he's gotten it. It alarms when bloods hit what ever number you set it at. So my dad's is set at 4.4 and 14. So it will keep going off when he goes below or above these numbers. It will help hugely in the management of his sugars and give you peace of mind as well. But the hypo earlier in the year is 100% not your fault, you can do everything right and still get a hypo, it's just the nature of the condition. So please don't feel guilty

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