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Is it OK to not accept bad behaviour from alcoholics?

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alco · 13/08/2023 21:39

I am a recovering alcoholic. As such I try to be open minded and fair to alcoholics.

But where does that line stop? In town today (there was a family friendly event on) DH crossed the road, I was a minute behind him and got stuck by a car passing. In that time a man I do not know, nor have I ever met before started talking to me. I wouldn't have said he sounded very drunk but had clearly been drinking. He was saying mind the car, 'ooooooo DH is looking'. He was also rubbing my back, I shrugged him off, he grabbed my arm I told him to let go. He ran his hand over my shoulder, tried to touch my hair and got a feel of my bum.

I told him to get off, and crossed the road. DH was fuming (at the man) this all took place in about 2 minutes while I waited to cross the road.

I try to be very understanding of alcoholics and try to be sympathetic. I also try not to be a hypocrite since I am an alcoholic myself. I wanted to be firmer with him but felt like that wouldn't be kind since well, I'm an alco who should not judge.

Not sure if I have any questions! I have been mostly sober the last 3 years and I am still learning things. My behaviour, what others behaviour is OK.

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DustyLee123 · 13/08/2023 21:40

I’d have punched him. Alcohol or not.

Restinggoddess · 13/08/2023 21:47

Well done on your recovery

The guy might not have been an alcoholic- even if he was, there is no excuse for this behaviour
It maybe that some one acts a certain way because of alcohol but if we all say ‘ah never mind it’s just because Jeff is an alcoholic’ - they never have their behaviour addressed and therefore have no push to get better

The guy was super creepy

alco · 13/08/2023 22:18

@DustyLee123 that was DH's reaction!

@Restinggoddess I know there is no 'type' and that anyone can be an alcoholic, but he sort of had "the look". He was a badly dressed middle aged man, with a very bad vibe. I know most alcoholics don't 'look' like alcoholics.

He gave me the absolute creeps, and this was the middle of the day surrounded by other people. DH also told me after that he knows who he is and he is always drunk.

OK good, I do feel sympathy for any alcoholic but I don't think that means people can be creepy arse holes because of it and that I have to put up with it.

Like I feel like a hypocrite though because I did crappy things when drunk (not that, but other crappy things).

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Starlightstarbright2 · 13/08/2023 22:22

Well done on recovery .

unacceptable behaviour is unacceptable behaviour …. I had a big drink last night .. I didn’t do any of those things .

TooOldForThisNonsense · 14/08/2023 21:45

He assaulted you. Not OK. Being drunk is not an excuse for criminal behaviour

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