Consuming alcohol in the presence of children is a topic that should be approached with responsibility and consideration for their well-being.

[jun12345]

Is it appropriate to request that family members refrain from holding my baby if they have been drinking, especially if they seem noticeably intoxicated and often repeat themselves? This situation occurs regularly, and I feel uncomfortable, but I'm hesitant to cause any upset or conflict within the family.

You have to do what you need to do to keep your baby safe. If someone was obviously pissed, I wouldn't even want them near my baby tbh.

If they'd just had a glass of wine or a beer or something and seemed fine, I wouldn't be worried.

The thing is, you are the baby's mum. You can set the boundaries you think are right. You don't need our permission or your family's permission to do that.

If your family are the sort to talk behind people's backs about their parenting, well they aren't the only ones. Here's the thing, it doesn't matter. Nobody could seriously say 'it's really important for babies to be held regularly by drunk people at any cost!' so any comments they make about your decision says far more about them than you.

Important though to thrash it out with your dh as well. You don't actually have to agree 100% but he should see that it's a perfectly reasonable boundary. But talk about what he'll do if people start calling you overprotective; he needs to stay calm and ask them why they think it's so vital for people to drink before holding a baby.

Why is your concern about causing upset or conflict with drunk family members greater than your concern with protecting your baby?

That's the question you need to be asking yourself.

Agree with the other posters. You are the parent - you decide. Yes, some family members won't like it. Tough with a capital T, as my SIL says. Also, if they have had more than the legal driving limit, they definitely shouldn't be holding a child. If they're not safe to drive, they're not safe a hold a baby that they could drop. You have every right to keep your child safe. Too bad if they don't like it.