He had one more glass.

[DustyLee123]

DH drinks a bottle of red wine every night. Last night it was a bottle of white as that’s all that was in. I’ve just realised that he opened the other bottle of white that was in there, and had a glass. (It was part of a present, we don’t usually have bottles in ). He would probably say it’s because white isn’t as strong 🙄
Just so disappointed, should have gone years ago. We are in a better place lately, but I don’t want this. Don’t want a scene, just don’t want this.

Can you leave? Do you have DC together, assets to split?

I'm sorry of course that this is your current situation, it must be hard and sad to witness his destructive behaviour. I was just trying to initially address the practical aspects of how you could change the situation.

Im not going to leave my home, I’m not the one that has promised to cut down/stop in the past. I’m not the one that’s an alcoholic, although he won’t admit to that, he says he’s reliant on alcohol.
Children are grown up now.
I just don’t want to turn my life upside down.

What do you want to happen? Bearing in mind that your husband cutting down isn’t a realistic option, as he’s shown.

In one way Im being unfair as I think it annoys me more now that I don’t drink. Every time I hear him open a bottle I just think it’s pathetic.
But on the other hand he’s an addict, and it’s not going to change.
I don’t know what I want.
He’s just opened tonight’s bottle now. That’s 7 bottles a week, £50-70 a week, and around 70 units a week too. I wouldn’t mind but he’s on antidepressants too.

By leave, I meant end the relationship, not leave the house.

This sounds really challenging. Only you can know whether you're willing to stay with him through this, so I'll park any advice about staying or going as it's really none of my business.

I recently cut down. I'm only 11 days into sobriety but it feels so different to the other times. I was recommended in this forum "The Naked Mind", which I found particularly useful on audible. It's superb, but he'd have to have a desire to stop drinking for the book to help I think. Do you think he does? I mean being in that halfway house where he regrets it each morning but carries on each night.

I found it impossible to stop drinking on antidepressants. I felt much better on them, but I also was a bit gung-ho. I would drink because it was fun. Its hard to explain. I could appreciate consequences, didn't take unnecessary risks in my day to day, didn't have withdrawal, I suppose antidepressants gave me the confidence to seize what I wanted (alcohol).

Best of luck, sorry this isn't especially helpful. I'm off ssris (recently) and haven't had a drink in 11 days. Went to the pub yesterday, had a pint of alcohol free beer (I realised I actually really like the taste of beer, not actually the ethanol or its effect) and had a lovely chatty time. Its possible but I was fed up of drinking lots and being fat and grumpy with the kids.