Long time lurker here, but having read many threads about living with an alcoholic I’ve decided to create my own. Dh and I been together over two decades. Always enjoyed a drink together, but he has never stopped enjoying a drink and drinks daily heavily at home. (Always 2 big beers and about a bottle of wine). I still enjoy a glass of wine but don’t enjoy ‘getting drunk’ or feeling awful next day so no longer drink to excess. I also hate the expense!
However, I am realising more and more that although dh holds down a job, I only see him drinking! His drinking negatively affects the whole family as he can get moody and angry easily when drinking, so we are walking on egg shells around him. He gets angry if I don’t want a glass of wine and tells me I’m ‘trying to be superior’!!!
I should have got out years ago (I know this!) but being tied up financially this has not been possible. I also know that dp is depressed (probably caused by excessive drinking) and have felt bad for him. He drinks when he gets home from work and ends up in bed by 9 most nights, so we rarely spend any time together. He sleeps for much of the weekend. He knows I hate the drinking and he knows the kids hate it too. I feel so incredibly guilty that my beautiful kids have had to put up with this pattern of behaviour.
However, i now have the first opportunity to move out with kids, but I’m still not sure! Will this be more disruptive for teenage Dcs than staying? I know that dh will not make this easy and will turn it all back on me. I know that i will be happier on my own but what about dcs? Any advice much appreciated. Thank you for reading.