DMum is an alcoholic with decompensated cirrhosis. She has had 3 hospital admissions in the last year for bleeds and hepatic encephalopathy. She has had a relatively long period out of hospital but we have been aware that things have been deteriorating again recently. We don’t live near but can gauge how things are from phone calls which have been increasingly confused and slurred.
I’ve had a call from her cleaner who told me that she is in a state again and going by the information she gave me, she is having another bleed and almost certainly needs to be in hospital. The cleaner understandably doesn’t want us to let on that she’s told us what is going on. We have tried to call and see how things are but both she and my step-dad are currently saying everything is fine. I don’t know what to do. I’m torn between letting them get on with it, but knowing that if I leave it then she will be in a worse state when she actually gets to hospital. My step-dad won’t call an ambulance until she can’t walk/get to the toilet because she is absolutely vicious and goes nuts if he suggests it. I also have 2 kids doing GCSEs so I don’t want to go down there if I don’t have to. I do have permission to speak to her GP but they have recently changed and every time I’ve tried to ask them to do a home visit, they refuse. Any suggestions??