Is DP an alcoholic?

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Hi all

I need help please.

I don’t drink and never have and don’t have many friends and those friends don’t drink either.
So I don’t know the types or the strengths of alcohol drinks.
The only thing I know is wine, beers and hard drinks.
DP definitely likes a drink but I usually don’t pay attention or mind but it seems lately he is drinking more and blaming it on body aches or wanting to relax for the weekend.
I think he has brandy of some sort. Glenfidich, Remy Martin etc sometimes vodka or tequila.
The problem is I never see the quantities he’s drinking and I also don’t know what is “a lot” or what is “just a drink”.
All I know is that he will say I’m just having a peg or 2 and the next thing you know, he is tipsy, then passed tipsy and then almost drunk. Almost drunk to me means he is still functioning and doing chores (when home) etc but more lairy and outspoken and more touchy feely.
So it’s not enough to cause a scene (which is what he does when blind drunk) but enough to see a change in usual behaviour.
We have 4 kids and this usually occurs when the kids have gone to bed.0
I think it’s getting out of hand but he protests that it’s just a weekend thing.

what do I do please?

Is it ok to drink weekly?

Should I be concerned or not?

I don’t think it’s a problem to drink, be tipsy or to be drunk weekly. if it was multiple times a week yes. There’s lots that get tipsy a couple of times a week that I know, none are alcoholics.

I do think it’s a problem that he gets lairy. I wouldn’t like that.

Is there a reason why you don't and never have drunk? Issues from childhood or just don't like taste?
I don't think what he does sounds too bad.

I don’t know if that amount of drink make him an alcoholic, though I would say it’s not a healthy relationship to drink and It may well be alcoholism/probelmatic . My husband has made the “have a drink to relax” comment before and I think that approach is problematic because it is using alcohol to cope with stress/relax….that I think can easily increase to alcoholism, if it hasn’t already.

I do think there are a lot of people who drink every weekend like your husband. I don’t think it is unusual. How come you don’t see the quantities? Does he hide the amounts? How much is he spending per week on alcohol?

How many days a week does he drink?
How many times does he have a hangover?
How is his behaviour if he doesn’t drink?

So it’s not enough to cause a scene (which is what he does when blind drunk)

Well, that doesn't sound good.

The rest sounds not that bad, but it's hard to say based on info