Sisters anniversary - remind me alcohol will not help!!!

[pontipinemum]

It is my sisters anniversary today. She died at just 33 from cancer. It was horrendous to watch and I drank a lot of 'cope' at the time. But it did not help me cope. It did the opposite. I very rarely drink alcohol these days as it really affects my mood for days after.

Today is her 8 year anniversary. I was doing fine until it 'hit me' about half an hour ago. I would love nothing more than to get a bottle of wine and forget it all.

But for me I know that will not help. I will feel shit tomorrow and I will be even more down. I also have responsibilities so cannot be hung over.

Please I just need people to remind me right now alcohol is not the answer.

Sending unmumsnetty hugs and
As you've said yourself you don't know alcohol isn't the answer. I tried to use it an the answer for almost 20 years after my father passed away but we need to address the situation not numb it. Hope you're ok.

Sorry you do know alcohol isn't the answer. Main point of my post autocorrected

@PMAalltheway thanks, I had my first big grief when I was 19 and my dad died. Then my mum when I was 25 then my sister when I was 26. Each and every time I reached for the bottle and each and every time it did not sort out the issues!!!

I am going to go to the shop and buy lots of chocolate and ice cream and maybe get a take away tonight. I know eating my feelings isn't the best option either and I am supposed to be on a diet but I think it is probably the better option.

If I go and get sloshed I will feel like absolute shit for about a week +.
I know this so why do I even think it might be a good idea. Strange the way the mind works.

Thanks for the hug. I've reached out to my other family and DH to tell them how down I am feeling. Bottles of all sorts are bad. (bottling things up)

Hope you are ok OP. How was the takeaway?

You know it will not help. You’ll wake up tomorrow and have still have the sadness. But the baggage of drinking on top.

im sorry for your loss x