Alcoholic sibling

[Primrose68]

At my wits end with severely alcoholic brother. He has been admitted to NHS hospital for endless detoxes, often discharging himself after a few days, and now finally has a chance at a new start with a lovely flat within a sheltered housing situation which we hoped would give him the companionship of people around to strengthen his resolve to stay sober. I am watching this destroy the life of my 85 year old mum who's in poor health herself ( heart and lack of mobility). I can't help feeling so angry with him that he's been putting her through this for the last 25 years. She's broken. I know it's got up come from him if he wants to crack this but all I can see is a sibling in his 50's with a death wish. Nothing I say to him helps. I really feel I just need to walk away for my own sanity but need to support my mum...

[TheWorldsGoneMadAndSoHaveI]

Can you and yor mum spend time together doing what you both enjoy?
Unfortunately there is nothing you can say or do with your brother that will make him change (unless he really wants to), so you have to take care of yourself and live your own life

[Primrose68]

Thanks @TheWorldsGoneMadAndSoHaveI I know logically now, through bitter experience it has to come from him. The last 25 years have been a constant loop of temporary periods of sobriety and then huge relapses. I can only think he either believes he's invincible or deep down has given up and wants to die...

[TheWorldsGoneMadAndSoHaveI]

Im going through similar with a family member. I dont understand their thinking. They must know what damage they are doing to themselves and others. I dont think its that they dont care but that the addiction is just to great

[FusionChefGeoff]

Have you tried Al Anon? It's a sister fellowship to AA that's specifically to help friends and family of alcoholics

[Herbalteahippie]

Thank you