I need help in understanding if I'm being too controlling or if my husband has a problem.
We have been married 6 years, we spent a lot of our early relationship out in bars, drinking and having fun. We now have a 11 month old baby and his way of life hasn't really changed much. He works from home and every day at 5 goes to the pub, has a couple of pints, comes home to help with bed time and when that's done he's a joint and then goes out to buy 4-6 cans of beer which he then drinks throughout the remainder of the night. He gets lightly drunk, not falling over....but definitely a change in his behaviour. Most Fridays/Saturdays he goes out and gets very drunk, and doesn't surface the following morning until 11/12.......meanwhile I've been parenting from around 6am. This infuriates me. I have asked him to cut down as I want to spend time with him when he's sober, and I don't want our son growing up with a father that drinks so heavily and/or has serious health issues as a consequence of drinking. He denies he has a problem and refuses to accept that it is bad for his health....and consequently nothing changes. I don't know what to do, I'm miserable and want him to prioritise our family over drinking......which at the moment feels like a million miles away. He claims I am controlling and that I want to stop all of the things that he enjoys doing. Am I being over the top??