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Does my husband have a problem

8 replies

peaches1990 · 12/03/2023 21:55

I need help in understanding if I'm being too controlling or if my husband has a problem.

We have been married 6 years, we spent a lot of our early relationship out in bars, drinking and having fun. We now have a 11 month old baby and his way of life hasn't really changed much. He works from home and every day at 5 goes to the pub, has a couple of pints, comes home to help with bed time and when that's done he's a joint and then goes out to buy 4-6 cans of beer which he then drinks throughout the remainder of the night. He gets lightly drunk, not falling over....but definitely a change in his behaviour. Most Fridays/Saturdays he goes out and gets very drunk, and doesn't surface the following morning until 11/12.......meanwhile I've been parenting from around 6am. This infuriates me. I have asked him to cut down as I want to spend time with him when he's sober, and I don't want our son growing up with a father that drinks so heavily and/or has serious health issues as a consequence of drinking. He denies he has a problem and refuses to accept that it is bad for his health....and consequently nothing changes. I don't know what to do, I'm miserable and want him to prioritise our family over drinking......which at the moment feels like a million miles away. He claims I am controlling and that I want to stop all of the things that he enjoys doing. Am I being over the top??

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quietnightmare · 12/03/2023 21:57

Urrmmmm that's disgusting behaviour

Also your say 'joint' do you mean he has a joint and then goes out to get more alcohol, is he driving?

This one is simple he either cuts it out and reserves it for a few drink AT HOME on the weekend or he needs to leave

DustyLee123 · 13/03/2023 06:39

So your child has a father who drinks daily and smokes weed ? He won’t stop, he’s an addict. You need to safeguard your child.

Shropshirepie · 13/03/2023 09:18

Yes he has a problem and you are absolutely not being over the top. Based on what you’ve said, your husband is consuming well over 120 units of alcohol a week.
Please contact Al-Anon for help and advice.

Tedjewell · 14/03/2023 14:55

It sounds like he does have a problem with alcohol and it also sounds like he may be somewhat in denial of it

MrsSlocombesCat · 21/10/2023 12:32

He won’t stop until you threaten to leave him. Tell him it’s the drink or you and his child.

Brocollimatilda · 21/10/2023 19:54

He absolutely has a problem.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 21/10/2023 21:37

Drink and drugs are more important to him
than his wife and child. He does have a problem and you don’t have to put up with it

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 21/10/2023 21:43

Bloody hell, OP. Yes he has a problem. And he must know he does. He'd have to be staggeringly ignorant to genuinely think this will not be damaging his health. It's not ignorance though, it's just that he wants to drink and he has no desire to stop. You can't make him stop, and it will only get worse. He is a selfish arse and this will not end well. I'm sorry.

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