Hi. I'm posting here because, I know it gets a little bit more interaction.
It's one of those asking for a friend situations. My friend is showing, in my opinion, problems with alcohol. I'm wondering if I post the outlines of the concerns, and habits, maybe someone here has either had a similar experience or, knows someone who has. And then, if so. What did you do, what could family /griendsdo to help.
Troubled upbringing - always has something to depend on, at the moment it seems to be alcohol.
I think it's important to add they are female.
They drink between 6 and 8 cans of larger - now this could be night after night for 2 weeks and then nothing at all for a week or 2. But then back to this level night after night. They can also drink alot more than this depending on circumstances, in a night.
It's almost like they're congratulating themselves when they have managed to go for a prolonged time ( a week or so) with out any, and then they go hard for a few weeks.
They mention they feel guilty around their drinking, but almost always come up with positive reasons for the drinking when they want to do it.
Sometimes, they drink alone, and stay up really late, in these moments they have feelings of not wanting to be here. Gone as far as writing out notes to people, and then they said they don't know why they felt like this.
They have a family, including children, and this doesn't seem to make a difference on anyone on their life, apart from them. What I mean Is they're not a drunk. But while no one is around, they are.
Socially they say, they can't face replying to texts and calls, and then as soon as they've had one drink, they can reply to all their built up messages.
They have struggled with depression and anxiety, they have said they want to stop, so when they are happy to "give up" they'll tell you all the reasons they drink and why they should stop. And then when they want a drink, they will tell you all the excuses why they should, such as, oh its been a good day/hard day/ celebrating/depressed. Etc
I know there is a problem, but it's not a wake up in the morning and drink kind of problem, what is this? Is it normal? Is it a problem.
I'd like some advice on how to help please