Do I apologise

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Hi every ,

So I'm 3 months fully sober , loving life , joined the gym, eating well , sleeping well and all that jaz

Now I won't go into why I have quit drinking other than I became a totally different person and I had a few to many awful situations. I would say I was nearing rock bottom . I tried to go sober for a while but have only recently managed it .

Now the only thing I struggle with is regrets and how I behaved and forgiving myself . I was in the gym the other day and I saw someone I was horrendous too, a young waitress who I just decided to be horrible to . In all honesty she is beautiful, comes from a lovely family and at the time I was in hole so as a female to a female I said some really spiteful things to her . I was totally off my face and probably jealous in a strange way . I shudder to this day .

Do I address this with her , it's making me want to leave the gym as I feel so mortified we both smiled at each other at the end of the class .

Sorry if this sounds pathetic but im still working through a lot xx

Everyone *

It was one of top 5 worst on my list of messing up when drunk ... to the point I was barred from the local and called a spiteful nasty girl. I suppose it's just took me back seeing her and triggered the shame again

I also don't want her to think I meant any of it . Or if I've knocked her confidence in anyway . I feel so so so bad xx

If she smiled at you then perhaps she’s forgotten. I wouldn’t bring it up with her personally

I would maybe get a sorry card. Write basically what you have said in this and apologise. I would hand it over at the end of the class that way nobody get put on spot in front of others or cause atmosphere. Well done so far and keep 💪 x

If I were you I would initiate a conversation and say what you've posted here.

You have got this 🙌🏼

I would apologise to her, I like the idea of a card too. Don’t make it too deep. She smiled at you so she’s obviously a nice person. Don’t let the shame eat you up and stop you from going to the gym. Well done on your sobriety!

I would have a quick chat with her about the points you mentioned in the post . I think a heartfelt apology is a very lovely thing. Just don't expect anything in return, take it as a thing to mark off your list. Well done on being sober. Congratulations on your 3 months. You should be proud of yourself.

Yes, apologize