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Original poster

4 bottles in one sitting...need help!!

93 replies

Scoley76 · 02/02/2023 12:55

Hi. Well where to start......
I have a problem with drink! Drinking up to 4 bottles of wine at a time maybe 4 times a week. I have drank more tbh but generally it's between 2- 4. I have a partner and a beautiful 7 year old boy who just doesn't deserve this. Today it has to change and I'm hoping using this forum will help. I've lied, covered up and spent hundreds of £££s. Has anyone got any tips to achieve what seems like a mammoth task? xx

OP posts:
Lentil63 · 02/02/2023 12:58

Get in touch with AA, please. Good luck. X

mrsbyers · 02/02/2023 12:59

I would get some medical advice on how to stop without putting your health at risk of sudden withdrawal at those levels you may need intervention

Imogensmumma · 02/02/2023 13:02

Well done for your honesty , I think you need to seek medical help. However, you need a strong motivator to stop … think of your little boy do you want to see him grow up and have his own life. What is more important him or the bottle …. Let that be your motivator to make each little step… good luck op

Original poster
Scoley76 · 02/02/2023 14:03

Thank you all.
I really want to try and do this on my own. I'm hoping this page is enough to help me. I suppose I'm ashamed to speak to the doctor. I don't crave alcohol. I just seem to not be able to stop once I start x

OP posts:
BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/02/2023 14:04

You need to find a local AA and go today.

DearieMeWhatsUp · 02/02/2023 14:06

Stopping drinking when you are drinking at that level can be extremely extremely dangerous. As in life threatening. Please make a GP appointment or google your local alcohol service, you will likely need some medical support to detox. Please don't be ashamed - they are there to help and will treat you with respect. Please don't try and do this on your own

alcohol.org/detoxification/at-home-concerns/

Imogensmumma · 02/02/2023 14:06

Considering the amount you are drinking in one sitting you need to seek medical help I believe as you may experience quite volatile withdrawal symptoms. Don’t be ashamed to do the right thing

GrazingSheep · 02/02/2023 14:07

really want to try and do this on my own. I'm hoping this page is enough to help me. I suppose I'm ashamed to speak to the doctor.
I don’t think doing it on your own is a good idea. I think you need to seek medical advice first and foremost.

Lentil63 · 02/02/2023 14:08

You are highly unlikely to be able to do this on your own. If you want initial support online find a Facebook group for AA. You can continue to post here too.
www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk
Follow that link, it’s your first step. Xx

FiveGoMadInDorset · 02/02/2023 14:09

Please go and see your GP, that level of drinking you may need some medication to help with the withdrawal

sandgrown · 02/02/2023 14:09

My ex drank like you and he couldn’t kick it on his own. He refused help and it ultimately destroyed our relationship and his relationship with his son . Please contact AA who are non judgmental. You owe it to your child .Good luck x

LindorDoubleChoc · 02/02/2023 14:09

YOU CAN KILL YOURSELF GOING COLD TURKEY AT THAT LEVEL OF CONSUMPTION.

You need a managed reduction programme. This is really important and serious! please seek the outside help you need.

Neilsfavouritechilli · 02/02/2023 14:10

If you don't fancy AA then take a look at smart recovery online. They have zoom sessions, you don't have to speak if you don't want to and its a really nice supportive atmosphere. I think they have a ladies only session on Thursdays.

Greendoor12 · 02/02/2023 14:10

If you’re serious then you’ll get the help instead of ‘wanting to do it alone’.

seriously, get help before it gets worse. You’ll fuck up his life and your own. Get the help.

Viviennemary · 02/02/2023 14:11

I agree with the others you need to seek support from AA

Original poster
Scoley76 · 02/02/2023 14:12

Thanks all for your advise. I cant lie some of these messages have hit hard. I'll ring the gp tomorrow x

OP posts:
BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/02/2023 14:13

I don't want to be a bossy bitch but ring now. Do it now. Your mind is ready to work on this. Tomorrow's mind might not.

Mamoun · 02/02/2023 14:14

AA is non judgmental and you will find support. It is also well known that helping others staying sober is a motivator to stay sober yourself so a group program is always extremely beneficial.
There is no shame, only bravery at talking the problem head on.

SlipSlidinAway · 02/02/2023 14:15

@Scoley76 - read the thread in Ask Me Anything by the 38 year old poster with terminal liver cirrhosis. She drank heavily in her 20s but probably not as much as 4 bottles of wine in one sitting. You need to find a way of dealing with this - fast. Good luck Flowers

thirtysixpercent · 02/02/2023 14:16

Hi OP
I've got a family member who's struggling the same. Firstly, I don't think this is something you should suddenly stop as you might need a medically managed withdrawal. But just admitting there's an issue is HUGE!!

If you don't wish to talk to your own doctor, you could pay for an appointment with a private GP. You can book them easily and do them online and ask for their advice. I'm not a professional but I've lived through this with family and you're definitely going to need advice before cutting down or trying to come off.

Secondly, since lockdown, lots of AA groups moved online. You can even join some on Zoom and keep your camera off. Good friend of mine finally sought help a couple of years ago and her first step was to anonymously join an online group. She gradually built up her confidence and now attends one in-person. She says this is not a journey you can do on your own.

I think you should defo speak to a doctor first. 👍🏼

Sarahcoggles · 02/02/2023 14:19

I doubt your GP can do anything.
Alcohol services are generally self referral. You can google the one for your area. If you need detox they will arrange it.

DNBU · 02/02/2023 14:21

OP, my friend recently died of cirrhosis, she was in her late 30s.
Please get help.

determinedtomakethiswork · 02/02/2023 14:26

You can do this, OP. Surround yourself with people who have done it by going to AA. Immerse yourself in success stories online so you can visualise a better future. Phone the doctor now. They have seen so many people in similar situations- some of them are medics. 💐

Mariposista · 02/02/2023 14:39

Huge congratulations for admitting you need help! I agree with the above - contact AA. They will be kind and non judgemental and you will find a community to support you. Tell friends and family of your plans to quit drinking (or eventually form a healthier relationship with it), and speak to your GP.
And goes without saying, don't buy it.

bigdecisionstomake · 02/02/2023 14:47

Adding my voice to the PP saying please don't go cold turkey at that level of drinking, it's really dangerous. I speak from personal experience, not me but someone close to me.

It's incredibly courageous of you to admit there's a problem and make the decision to deal with it - I absolutely applaud you for that - but please get medical help and help from an organisation like AA before stopping.

I wish you well on your journey. There will be ups and downs but with the right support you can absolutely do this.