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Alcohol Support

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Maceyjade · 08/12/2022 02:05

I am going through a rough patch with my father, and I just don't know what to do. I am 20 years old, and he is 50. Growing up I noticed that he would drink a lot, but not until my teens did, I realize how much of a problem it had become. At first, he drank beer and then he started drinking dark liquor. It went from pints a day to 1 liter almost every day. He wouldn't eat, or shower, and he would lay in his bed all day and not come out of his room. He would go days and sometimes a whole week, without even talking to me or my brother or grandma. He ended up in the hospital about three years ago because his liver was shutting down his skin was yellow and his eyes, and he had stopped eating for some time while he drank. He had also been puking blood from the ulcers caused by the drinking. Now all of this scared him to death and was a huge wake up call, so he quit for about a year. Now he is doing the same exact thing again. In fact, now he has lost his car and his job and is hopeless and continues to drink and drink and not eat or do anything, he rarely even leaves the house. I have tried everything there is to do. When he is drunk, he gets very mean and nasty, it's beginning to be hard to live with him, because the way he acts is brining me down too. I have lost hope and it's honestly depressing.

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Onewildandpreciouslife · 09/12/2022 14:52

I’m really sorry you’re going through this.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to help your father - he needs to decide to seek help for himself. All the love and persuasion in the world can’t beat alcohol, unless the drinker themself wants to stop.
You need to get help for yourself. AlAnon is a good place to start, I think, as you’ll be talking to people who’ve been through this before. Do you need to live with him, or is there a chance you can move out?

DetoxedAlcoholic · 09/12/2022 14:56

You can't do anything. He's been through this before so he knows what's happening. I would suggest trying one last time to point it out to him and offer help accessing support. BUT then break away if nothing changes. Can you move? Your don't want to be dragged down with this. I'm sorry for what you're going through.

MichaelFabricantWig · 11/12/2022 20:02

I am so sorry pet x have you tried contacting Al-anon for support? It might help you feel not so alone x

Wolfiefan · 11/12/2022 20:03

You can’t do anything. The only possible way to improve things is to move out and not put yourself through this. Sorry.

Japanesejazz · 23/06/2023 22:57

He wants to die, awful for you
Its not your fault

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