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I am sure my husband is a alcoholic

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user1491320660 · 03/10/2022 12:45

I feel lost.

I have come to the conclusion that my husband is an alcoholic. He drinks about 40 units per week. He blames me for his drinking. He gets paranoid when drinking. He lies about his drinking and claims he only drinks a few cans weekly - the recycle bin would tell me otherwise. He suffers from daily mood swings and insomnia. He is overweight, has a bad diet, and high blood pressure. According to him he does not have a problem.
He is also emotionally abusive when drinking and not drinking.
Right now, I cannot leave because I am completing a part-time online-course and looking after our young child. I also have long-term disabilities that affect my ability to work full-time out of the house. I am trying to find a full-time work-from-home job when my course finishes in 2024. The industry that I am training in is mostly work-from-home.

In the meantime I do not know what to do; I feel sad everyday; I sleep in the spare room, and dread when I know he is coming home. The worst part is that I have no idea how this is affecting our child. Our child is very happy and doing well at school, but she is aware how much my husband likes beer.
Any advice would be greatly received. Thank you.

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DifficultBloodyWoman · 03/10/2022 12:51

Help yourself (and your child) first. Please contact Al-Anon. It is a support group for families of alcoholics. They have all been were you are today. You can get through this.

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user1491320660 · 03/10/2022 14:13

Thank you. I have looked at the website before and there is useful information that I will use. I know I have to emotionally detachment. It is hard, especially since he had a difficult childhood that he refuses to acknowledge. I know he is suffering but I am tired of the daily hatred and anger directed to me.

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LovinglifeAF · 03/10/2022 22:51

I’m so sorry OP X

If you can’t leave now then all I think you can do is make plans for when you can and reach out to Al anon for support.

there is nothing else you can do, you can’t do anything about his drinking x

Andante57 · 03/10/2022 22:55

As pp have said, please go to Al Anon. You will find help and support there from people who have experienced what you are experiencing.
Blaming you for his drinking is absolute classic alcoholic behaviour.
The three Cs:
You didn’t cause it
You can’t control it
You can’t cure it.

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