Reframe app?

[NCgoingdry]

Just that really - has anyone used the Reframe app to get sober and has it helped. Would you recommend?

I signed up, naively thinking it was free. Then I saw that it was £12 a month. Stupid really as I spend way more than that on wine. I don't really want that payment showing on my statement to be honest. But I'm struggling to quit alcohol. A bottle of wine every night.

I need to break this habit because I don't want to say it out loud but I'm basically an alcoholic.

I'm getting fat, depressed and feel like shit. I need something to keep me going without having to say the words out loud to my partner.

Hey, I've not used that app so I have no advice there but I just wanted to say I'm in the same situation. Fat, depressed and feel like shit but unable to say those words, stuck in a cycle of drinking even when I don't want to and hating myself every morning.

I'm starting day 2 of 100 days sober tomorrow and I've spent £25 on a hypnotherapy course that I dont even know how to download and probably won't have time to listen to and I'll be drinking again by the weekend. Absolutely done but can't seem to change.

Hi @TinaTotal

I literally feel exactly the same as you. I've gained so much weight just in alcohol. My skin has gone to shit, my anxiety is so bad I've bitten my nails off. And I always have an excuse. I have a really stressful job - so if it's a good day it's celebrate with wine. If it's a bad day it's drown myself in wine. Always manage to get up at 5am and work so I've never seen it as a problem.

Dinner with the family. Drink. Sitting indoors alone. Drink.

But I know every morning that I hate myself when I wake up doesn't stop me.

I didn't drink last night. First day I've not had a drink in probably a year. I woke up still feeling like shit. But not sick and not guilty. So that's something I guess. I had to make myself really busy all evening until 10pm when I got into bed and struggled to sleep.

So this is also my day 2! Just even getting the this point is something to feel proud of I guess. Don't think as far ahead as the weekend. Just worry about today. All I have to do is not drink today.

Hope you're feeling ok today. Let's try and break the cycle.

Good luck today. Hope you feel ok. Just be kind to yourself. Get a fancy soft drink in and loads of snacks. The sleepless nights are the worst.

Day 10 here of no booze after basically being the same as you in your OP. Feeling good in the mornings, getting loads done in the evenings, eating better - and like you said, not feeling cross with myself in the morning is such a nicer way to live. I’ve had probably 5 years of drinking creeping up and up. Partially lockdown, partially having kids and not being able to do much in the evenings, bit of boredom…

Thanks @TinaTotal yesterday was only survived because I had a gallon mug of fruit tea.

@Mouthfulofquiz thanks for your input. How did you get to ten days? Just seems like SUCH a long time. What happens when "events" or stress happens where you would normally drink?? I've never been good with alcohol looking back. But lockdown, boredom, kids all made it worse on reflection. Can totally relate - I just hope that I can do a long stint and reset.

So I was going to bullshit and say that I stayed sober again but I had a work dinner last night and had two glasses of wine. Not a whole bottle. But still enough for me to feel the shame this morning.

Will look into the reframe app again to give me some more accountability. Today is day 1 again for me. Will not drink tonight. I'm making a point of working late and have things to organise in the evening to keep me busy.

If anyone has any experience of the app I would really appreciate to hear your thoughts. Or basically any other kind of secret support I can get.

It's totally ok. I've dont that a million times. It was only 2 glasses. I used to use an app called dry days - I'll have a look at Reframe because I was thinking it would be good to track my 100 days. Or help me get to 100 days. Feeling pretty positive today. We can do this!

@TinaTotal how are you getting on staying sober? Any side effects? Any tips on managing. How do you feel.

I'll check out the other app too and see. Something visual would probably help me. Dry tonight. We can do this.

@NCgoingdry it's day 3 and it feels like forever! 😱 I feel much more positive in my mind frame I slept quite well last night, better than I thought I would. I've been very very tired. I had to have a double espresso at 4pm yesterday.

I signed up for Reframe, it looks quite good. I went for the year subscription instead of £21.50 a month 😱

Reframe says withdrawal symptoms will start now so I'm looking forward to that! Although I did a week AF last month and I don't remember any withdrawal symptoms. And I did the whole of dry January without a problem.

@NCgoingdry how's it going? I've decided £100 for the app is not worth it and I've cancelled the free trial. I've gone 4 days now but I could have easily had a drink tonight. I didn't - which is good but it's really hard when things are stressful. A lot of things went wrong today and RIp the Queen and I'm so so unbelievably tired still. Tomorrow night will be hard for sure.

Hey @TinaTotal where do you think the tiredness is coming from? I feel exhausted too but I think that's literally a depression fog from just life/work and too much alcohol.

Sigh - I've not been good. I didn't drink the day before but I did yesterday. Husband came home with a bottle without me even asking (he's used to my requests to pick one up on the way home from work) and it was staring at me while I was working, making dinner etc and I caved. Not a whole bottle, but enough that I slept shit and have anxiety this morning.

Four days is great, massive achievement. So far I can't get past one day. And yesterday was such a weird and sad day you've actually done amazingly. Any willpower tips???

Weekend triggers. God I'm dreading it. I can't drink tonight - I need to dig deep and find some willpower.

I'm trying to reframe it that at least my drinking is 50% less this week as it's been every other day as opposed to every day but it still feels like I'm failing.

@TinaTotal the app is showing as £67.99 for a year at the moment. I found this thread as I was interested if anyone here has tried it.

@Slidey23 mine still wants £102.99! Maybe it'll drop after the free trial ends. I haven't found it worth the money to be honest. I think I'll get a free app that counts the days.

That’s strange isn’t, that’s a big difference.
Good luck to you and OP.

Not tried the Reframe app but sounds very expensive for day counts and email, the official Alcohol Change UK app called Try Dry does all that for free.

I would recommend Sober Dave's app though. He has a podcast and book on Amazon called "One for the Road".
The community on his app are so supportive, it's like a chat forum like this. He puts on events and we all meet up, etc.
I'm 8 months sober now and the people on that app are a huge part of my reasons why.
😃

@JaquiRussell thanks for that input I'll definitely look into the ones you recommended. Congrats on 8 months that's HUGE.

I've been struggling this week, work isn't helping matters. Feeling low level depressed constantly and I know I'm not helping myself at all. Still, better in terms of volume of consumption than where I have been previously.

@TinaTotal how are you getting on?

I've just found your message from few years ago & wandered how you are doing & did you join the reframe app? All the comments from your self & the other person, I totally relate to & it's like I am saying them, but I don't tell anyone I know.🙂

@Kittycat2024

I used Reframe and have found it very useful.

I feel that my sobriety is worth the £60 odd quid for the year (and realistically I saved that much by not drinking in a week so it paid for itself very soon)

I especially found the daily work useful in the first few months.

Not sure I will renew after a year though.

The I am Sober app is free and works well for counting days and a daily pledge of you don't want to pay.