Trying to leave my alcoholic partner

[Welshmiss38]

Trying to leave my alcoholic partner.. we haven’t spoken in a few days, his life is controlled by his drinking. On day 1 he will drink all night keep drinking all though the 2nd day until he passes out. During this time he drinks 30 pints and a bottle of jack Daniels.

We have no life together, I can’t book to go anywhere as I don’t know what “drinking day” he will be on. On his 2nd drinking day he can be very verbally aggressive and nasty.

We have been together 2.5 years, I guess I’m just posting to give my self the strength to cut all ties this time..

Gosh he sounds very deep into his addiction. You must leave for your own sake. Do have a house or kids together?

Why would you stay xx

You've come to the realisation that you need to leave - that's the first big step, well done.

Please contact Al-Anon or Smart Friends and Family for support - these organisations are there for family members and loved ones of addicts and have meetings online. Speaking to people who are like you will make you feel less alone and will help you deal with the guilt.

Start thinking about the practicalities - finances, housing, children if any, and start preparing. Life without an addict in it is infinitely better.

Lastly there is a little support thread on here for people in your position, so pop on over and talk to us - we are friendly and supportive.

@pointythings have you got a link for the thread please

Of course, @MarigoldMoonStone - here it is: www.mumsnet.com/talk/alcohol_support/4581221-support-group-for-those-affected-by-someone-elses-drinking?page=7&reply=119696867

You are more than welcome to join, we are all here to help. I co-facilitate a similar group in real life too.

Stop "trying" and just leave him already.

@pointythings thank you

@Aquamarine1029 I know you mean well, but it isn't simple. We all know that it takes abused women many attempts to leave. The same applies to relatives of addicts - living with an addict really feels like emotional and psychological abuse and many of the same things apply.

Hi… I’m new and just looking for advice really. I’ve been with my partner 9 years, engaged and one child together. I have a daughter 17 from previous relationship, partner likes a drink every weekend but doesn’t know when to stop… that’s when the nastiness starts (not every weekend but more than enough occasions)he’s vicious with his words and it’s like I’m walking on egg shells or trying to keep out the way when he’s had a drink. He has started to be nasty to my daughter aswell (once drunk) and I have asked him to stop drinking as he can’t handle it as he’s the nicest person ever when not drunk but it’s like he don’t want to… I’ve currently finished with him and handed over my ring over his drunken antics from last week as my children come before anything and they shouldn’t live with his drunken outbursts. But we are renting together, he is still here but we are not speaking and when I try he says he can’t be bothered and I don’t have any money for a deposit until October as I’m studying and work one day a week,is their any suggestions where I could get help from. Thankyou

Or what would you do in my situation? Thankyou

Please leave him, I stayed with my partner for 10 years and regret this time wasted. I hear of people who stay for 30years plus, it helped for me to think of how long I could put up with this for. If you don't leave now it will continue to get harder. They won't change. It's an awful disease and there's nothing you can do to fix it unfortunately