Day one no alcohol, my life needs to change.

[Lookingforhelp123]

I need help and accountability, so just starting my own thread.

I want so badly to enjoy life without alcohol, to make good decisions and to not let my family down.

Im a binge drinker.

I have done thing that I am disgusted with myself, I've hurt my family, I could have died. I don't want this anymore.

I would appreciate some support but even if I end up posting for just myself, so be it and it will be my own little accountability thread to look over when I feel like I need to drink.

Just for future me and if anyone wants to see my previous thread. This is why I have made this decision.

My life's a mess, I need help. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4601657-my-lifes-a-mess-i-need-help

Hi, I don't have any advice but I really hope it goes well for you. Xxxx

Good for you OP. Sorry not read your other thread yet but well done for confronting this. It sounds like you have some motivation to make a change.
I gave up for 2022 at the start of Jan and have managed it so far. For me it helps to have a time-limited target. But I might carry on longer, as it’s a relief to see the back of it in many ways. All the best and try not to be too hard on yourself.

My partner has been alcohol free for 2.5 years. It’s the best thing he has ever done for himself and his family.

Well done for putting yourself first and wanting to change your life for the better. It will be so worth it. Will your friends and family be supportive and encouraging?

I think so, my DH doesn't drink. I need to work up the courage to tell them I have a problem but they are supportive generally so I can't see why this would change xx

You’ll feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders by telling them. It’s an admirable thing to do to acknowledge you have a problem, tell people and do something about it.

DP uses an app called Sober Time. It encourages him to see how many days he has been alcohol free for but it also has a community where you can chat to others about your journey

Hey I'm in a similar position re wanting to cut the drink out. I drink more at home and when I'm stressed. I am finding it's starting earlier in the week now I'm back at work and I'm groggy and irritable the next day with my family. I've cut it out before then think I can moderate but it creeps back up. We've got this 💪🏻

I told all my family last night and my DH. They are all being very supportive and understanding, which is a huge relief if I'm being honest. Just told them about going alcohol free nothing about what has happened, I think they are all relieved I've seen it myself

Sorry have name changed

@Lookingforhelp123 Happy to be here for support as needed. I help highly functioning people change their relationship with alcohol and it starts with a decision. You've taken a step forward which is to be applauded.Where I'd start is identify exactly why you want to change? In terms of having a really solid, inspiring, non-negotiable reason? If you say "yes" I recommend you test its toughness - it needs to be stronger than all the many reasons you currently have to drink.

Oh OP I am so sorry for what you went through. I can understand you not telling anyone but please believe that if you were not able to consent to sex you were raped/assaulted. Please don’t blame yourself.

I didn’t get into that kind of predicament but this time last year I was realising I was going to have to quit. I was drinking a bottle of wine at least daily and knew it was going to destroy me.

I couldn’t go 2 days without a drink. I had terrible physical and mental symptoms when I drank, and also when I didn’t.

I’m nearly a year sober now.

surround yourself with support, be kind to yourself, read quit lit. Write down your whys. You can do this. A better life awaits x