Drinking everyday no breaks

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So I no I have a problem with drink . I drink a bottle of wine every night , it's gotten way more regular we're it's 7 days a week . I haven't had a break I can't remember the last time i haven't had drink at least one night free . Sometimes I drink wine , sometimes I drink vodka with coke . Then if I run out I drink my partners rum . I basically will drink anything . I think I drink because I'm depressed / stressed . I want to stop , but I keep failing because I'm so stressed . Once kids are in bed I crave it . My whole body is covered in this itchy rash . Spoke to docs she said allergies/ viral infection . Gave me some antihistamines . So there stressing me out , I also have a abscess but getting that sorted / under control. I have massive health anxiety . But I'm so so desperate to be happy . Iv piled on weight , I just don't care anymore , but I do if that makes sense ? Any advice please , I need a rant

Oh lovely.
You drink because you’re depressed but the drink keeps you depressed. It also stops antidepressants working to their full effect so, if you are on them, they won’t be helping you as much as they should.
Does your Dr know about your drinking? They can signpost you to support services in your area if you are keen to give up, it does sound like your partner will also need to give up to help support you so there isn’t temptation there.

Please speak to the Drs about your drinking, life can get better Without it.

You do need to quit. Have a look at Annie graces alcohol experiment. But also speak to your gp. Alcohol is a miserable addiction good luck

@LetMeInYourWindow thankyou . My partner actually doesn't drink . He has rum stored but never touchs it 🤣 we have none left in the house anymore thank god aha . I'm 23 so I haven't told my dr about my drinking as I believe I can stop I just sometimes give up because I'm stressed , I think I have to really want to give up in order for it to work . X

I just think if I'm depressed the drink has definitely got to be making me worse mental health wise and physically !! I'm just that fed up now I just want to drink to take the pain away . I'm so tired mentally it's unreal

You have taken the first step by admitting that your drinking has become a problem, well done as this is often the most difficult.

I second the PP who suggested contacting your GP, there will be an alcohol service in your local area who will work with you to set achievable and realistic goals.

Good luck OP.

You need to see your GP, it could be dangerous for you to just quit. You know and admit you have a problem with drink that’s the first step.
You need proper anti depressants if you are feeling down, alcohol will only make you worse.

Thanks everyone . I don't want to go to my gp , I can do it on my own . However I will see my gp for depression . I think my whole lifestyle needs to change , I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old , I'm constantly stuck at home , I never have a break . I can't remember the last time I did something for myself .

My sister has 3 kids ( 4 , 2 , &1 ) and my mum helps her lots and has her kids to sleep over or while she works . Or just in general. I asked my mum to watch mine for coupe of hours today and it's like getting blood out of a stone . She just won't ! Obviously I don't expect her too but it would be nice if someone was to help me

Also me and my sister live on the same street, my mums always there but never comes here . It just upsets me , why does no one want to see me or my kids ? Why am I left out , my mums excuse is because she has 3 kids . And I only
Have 2

Doesn’t your partner look after the children?

@Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas

He does his best , but he works all week . He helps when he's home

What kind of hours does he work?

@Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas

He works 7.30 till 4.30 x

Sometimes 6

Then there is no reason why you can’t have a couple of evenings to yourself.

It's good that you can see this is a problem.

I can almost guarantee your depression and alcoholism are linked. The MH hospital I went to refused to even address MH issues until I had been away from drink for 12 weeks. I'm not saying you don't have MH issues but alcohol is pouring petrol on those fires.

Since stopping drinking my body feels better, and looks better, but my mind is so much better. I am so much happier. I had a lot of reasons excuses to drink alcohol. But getting drunk didn't change any of those things or make them easier to accept. It made everything in my life worse.

Try having a few sober nights per week. You will sleep better, feel better, have a clearer mind

@recoveringyoungalco I really need to give it a try properly and see if anything changes . I always say that I'll stop , I do for a few days then get stressed and back on it . It's been so crap for ages now I just want to be better if not for me for my children . I'm 23 and feel like I'm wasting my life away

Does your dp know how much you drink?

@GrazingSheep yes he's aware x

Well done for admitting it. I would try to stop completely. Take each day at a time at the beginning. Save the money you’d spend on alcohol and save it or treat yourself/the kids.

Get yourself some nice soft drinks in and try and distract yourself at the “danger” times.

Yoir kids are still young but they will start noticing so now is a good time for you to stop.

Your sleep will be crap for a few weeks but you’ll soon start feeling loads better and I’m sure your anxiety will massively reduce.

Good luck ❤️

I think you should go back and speak to the doctor about how much you're drinking. Once they know that they can deal with the skin problem properly. You are so young, please try to get this under control now. You will probably need to throw everything at it, listen to podcasts, watch YouTube talks, talk to your GP, go to AA. It will all be worth it as your life will be so much better if you give it up.

I would also recommend going to AA. It is about sooooo much more than alcohol. It is in every town, it is very supportive and it is free. Even if you don't ''get'' it I think it will start building some very solid foundations for you. It has done wonders for my MH. Majority of our meeting people don't really talk about alcohol but how they are feeling, their struggles. When we have new people though we do all revert back to talking predominantly about alcohol.

AA has given me a lot in terms of a space to say how I really feel and what is going on. Give it a go, you really have nothing to lose from it.

I was drinking a bottle of wine every night too OP for around 2 years, also a parent to young children and stuck at home alot. I am now 19 months alcohol free. I suffered badly with anxiety while I was drinking and used alcohol to self medicate - not realising it was the alcohol giving me the anxiety or worsening it. I can now say my anxiety is gone and that is something I never thought I would ever say, as it was so bad! I've never been happier and the calmness and peacefulness I feel every day is something I could never have achieved while drinking.

I didn't go through a gp or ween myself down I just stopped. The first week or two was a challenge as I struggled to fall sleep without wine and would feel very panicky in bed, however I now sleep ALL NIGHT which is something I could never do while drinking - no more 3am wake ups for me.

I have lost weight and feel so much more like myself again, I get joy from a lovely cup of coffee or tasty meal, a hot chocolate in the evenings now instead of wine. Trust me OP you will begin this AF journey and never look back - just be gentle on yourself the first few weeks and you will reap the benefits. You will be more patient with your children. You will have energy like you've never had - and no more hangovers means you will enjoy getting out on walks or trips to the park. You will feel a sense of pride in yourself and it just gets better and better. The inner peace is worth more than any glass of wine and sobriety in itself is now addictive to me! I will never need a glass of alcohol to bring me peace ever again x

Your so young op.im so sorry your feeling like this.
Have you access go therapy?the drink is a symptom of your depression luv.like drugs,like food illnesses it's not about the alcohol it's about the mental.you need help with that.your in this vicumious circle now.
Forget the self hate you weigh what you weigh.only society cruelty makes us think badly of larger ladies.your you, unique,special beautiful as the weight you cone in.it might change,but that's life.try to be neutral with it.think of what your body does for you instead of how it looks.
I'm sure is the alcohol wasn't a problem you'd take more care for yourself,and want to just to feel good,to self care and self love and all that hoo harr.
Can you do it on your own.why haven't you?
Are you scared to get help.let people no because actually you do t want or can't stop and don't want them to make you. Because there still the mental healrhbproblems theteforecyih still need the alcohol to cope,show your pain.
But who could you becwithoyt alchohl being used to solve the pain or salve the issues?
Think of all the things you could do if alcohol wasn't taking over.if thoughts of it wasn't causing you this much distress.^^