Your AA Group in pregnancy

[recoveringyoungalco]

What are your AA group like?

I am HEAVILY pregnant I look like a small whale. My group is predominantly older men. Last night we had no other women. I think they are fascinated by me in a sweet way. I was telling them that AA has taught me a lot about letting go and being ok with things I can't control. Which I am finding very helpful during pregnancy because I cannot control this either and there are a few issues out of my control which I am going with the flow.

I live in a very rural area and last night they were all very 'gushy' over the fact I am due very soon. TBF they 'went through' ever miscarriage with me, as without fail when I mc'd I fell off the wagon then had to bring myself back into AA. They also heard about when I'd know a cycle had been unsuccessful and I was struggling not to drink on it. They talked about their struggles/ triggers. Maybe I over share at meetings!!

My home group is generally 50+ males or newly sober younger guys so I only really had my sponsor to speak with about pregnancy. In my third trimester I stopped going to live meetings as there'd be 30 odd people in a small, cramped room and I was COVID seemed to be rife again so I went to zoom meetings instead and managed to find a couple that were all women so I could relate to a lot more ladies.

I was a 'zoom baby' and got sober on zoom meetings in April 2020 and the men were genuinely so pleased that their zoom baby was having her own sober baby that it was touching but it was nice to be able to speak to ladies that had been in my position before. If you like then I can send you the details of the zooms over? One is a worldwide ladies only group & another is a smaller local group with a few of old timer ladies and gents 🙂

I was ridiculously calm throughout pregnancy and I fully put it down to working the program and accepting the things that I couldn't change and trying my best not to project (which was easier said than done!) and this helped my partner too as he's a worrier and we're both first time parents.

We're 9 days post partum and currently in a happy newborn bliss and I'm just going with whatever happens 🙂

@CatSophie congratulations on your baby!!

if you could send on the details for the ladies only group that would be great please. I have been doing a few zooms with the group I used to go to during lock downs.

I have made a few in person meetings since baby was born. It was lovely, they all keep saying I have an AA baby! And wanted to see pics. I breast fed on the zoom meeting this morning (couldn't see my boobs but knew that's what I was doing) one of the much older men was saying isn't it beautiful that, the baby has is having breakfast with a sober mum. That we had made his day brighter.

I put down a huge amount of how I am as a mother to 'the program' we had rocky start with some issues, nothing too serious but still trying. I was able to 'let go and let god', 'this too shall pass', 'easy does it'. Instead of stressing or taking on far too much

Ah this thread is really lovely well done op