Morning everyone, I am really worried about my husband’s drinking. I mentioned it to a couple of close friends and they don’t think he drinks too much.
He drinks every night. There is not a day in the week when he doesn’t drink. He will typically have at least a couple of glasses of wine and 3 beers. Other times he has more - half a bottle of wine and some beers, to the point where he slurs his words.
Apart from the amount, my worry is that it feels like he walks through the door and gets a drink almost immediately. It feels like he does that before even saying hello to the children.
I have noticed that he has been taking the dog for a walk in the evening and coming back having had a drink (or a few). He either takes it with him or buys it on the way.
The other day, I could smell it when he came back and said (not accusingly) “have you been to the pub?”. He said no, went upstairs and came back down smelling of mouthwash.
He will go out with friends, come back having already had plenty to drink, and then carry on drinking by himself.
I have mentioned it a few times and he gets defensive and sulky and says “I wont have a drink then” and makes a cup of tea.
His family is French so they drink wine with every meal and have an aperitif every day, but I feel this is different.
He is otherwise very fit (much fitter than I am) - runs, cycles etc, and I feel that he thinks he’s fine because he does lots of exercise.
Am I being ridiculous?