1-2 bottles of wine every day

[ButtercupMum123]

Hello! This is my first time on here and the fact I’m asking if it’s bad is because I know It is. I have always loved drinking wine! I have always worked and now have two children 3 + 4 years old. I still work. I don’t drink before 12. I carry on with my day as normal and function. I’ll go for a couple of drinks maybe in a bar and then have a bottle of wine at home in the evening and maybe another glass left from the night before. If I feel like I need a break I can stop drinking for days very easily. I don’t want to give up completely as like going out for lunch with a few drinks etc. I’m just finding it hard to only drink two days a week and not excessively 😫😫😫. Anyone else have this problem? Thank you.

I’m just finding it hard to only drink two days a week and not excessively

not everyone can moderate, myself included, and you may find that giving up completely is actually the only way.

Your children are so young, if you are picking them up after having a drink at lunchtime you can guarantee that nursery/school staff are aware and the rest of the school mums will be aware too.

I wish I hadn’t spent so much of my child’s life drinking once he’d gone to bed.

I fooled myself thinking it wasn’t harming him because he was in bed. He obviously knew because when he was a teenager he begged me to not drink so much. I didn’t think a bottle of wine 3-4 nights a week was a lot. Compared to the amount I ended up drinking it really wasn’t!

If you are finding it hard not to drink more than a couple of times a week, or not to drink excessively, you need to consider that you already have a problem with alcohol and make steps to think about getting some support. 1-2 bottles of wine a day really is a lot. No judgment, but support is out there, or on here, when you need it. Take care

Honestly you are drinking a lot (and I say that as someone who likes wine). It is the lunchtime drinking that jumps out at me - so you are essentially not sober from midday until you go to bed every day? Who are you going to these bars with? How are you helping the kids with homework and managing general life?

It might be easier to go completetly cold turkey to start with.

I wanted to ask these questions too.

Where is the Children's Father? Surely he can't think think this is OK.

I don’t drink before 12

That is not a major achievement.

Op has posted on the Alcohol support thread.
your comment is hardly supportive.

Hi, this is problem drinking IMO. The way I know if something I'm doing is ok is if I imagine honestly describing it to my GP and what their reaction would be.

Could you stop drinking altogether? How do you feel when you think about that?

I like wine too. I buy the little bottles of wine and drink 2 of those most nights, which is the equivalent of half a bottle, with one or two af nights a week. Occasionally I get a third little bott so I'm drinking 3/4 of a bottle on those nights. More expensive but better for the liver and family life? It helps me to limit what I drink.
Working towards 3 after nights a week.

If you can't moderate, you need to give up. There's loads of advice and support on the relevant boards here to help.

3 af not 3 after

Now this might sound ridiculous coming from me as I am only 2 days AF. But in my humble opinion trying to moderate drinking only prolongs the agony, hell and torment. I find it maddening, that thought 'maybe I can moderate?' - nope! Maybe it's fine for a little while but before long I'm back to square 1, and worse. I only drink at very worst 3 nights a week, but I know I can't moderate so I am quitting completely.

If I were you I'd save yourself years of stress trying to moderate and think about quitting altogether.

Op has posted on the Alcohol support thread.
your comment is hardly supportive.

I am pointing out that alcoholism is a spectrum and not all alcoholics drink before 12pm as per stereotype. As OP implied that this would mean her drinking isn't problematic.