Day 35 - when do things get better?

[DeedIDo]

Yes, it's Day 35 here, the longest I have gone without a drink in living memory, but when do things get better?

My mental state is good and I actually feel much better in myself for not drinking between 40-60 units a week and the constant negotiating that goes with it, but I am permanently exhausted, blotchy, cranky and my sleep, instead of improving, is getting worse.

This is not how I imagined it would be. I thought by now I would be full of energy and glowing with health, but I'm clearly not.

Will it get better, and if so, when?

Thanks

[Gagagardener]

Well done you! Keep it going - things will improve. Try plenty of fresh air and exercise? That works for cranky children. 😠 Impressive achievement!

[tocas]

Well done! Try and fill the hole with something else, I think. Exercise, a hobby, time with people you love. Waiting around for things to improve is only going to take you so far.

[Stoic123]

Congratulations- a great achievement.

Are you eating a lot of junk food/sugar to compensate? When I first dramatically cut back drinking (pretty much stopped), I ate a lot of sugary snacks. Lesser of two evils but it was only after I cut back on these too, that I got the full benefits of stopping.

[DeedIDo]

Good point @Stoic123 . Day 36 and I do have a serious Twirl habit that needs to be resolved. It's just one thing after another, isn't it?

[Stoic123]

@DeedIDo - you'll get there. Baby steps 😀

[Rupertpenrysmistress]

Well done so far. I remember hitting about 30 days and just feeling a bit ok what now? Started to think I could just have one, as if 🙄. Anyway I hung on mainlined chocolate/sweets whatever and just kept going day by day. Sober books/face masks/walks/nice coffee. Eventually that passed, however I felt the same again at 90 days, but I knew I could do it this time.

I am now nearing 150 days and it just keeps getting better.

[Rupertpenrysmistress]

Also sleeping was starting to improve around 30 odd days so hopefully soon for you too. Magnesium tables helped me to sleep. Not quite sorted my chocolate habit but still lost weight, have energy and just feel so happy. You can do this.

[DeedIDo]

Day 45 and things are worse, frankly. Sleep has gone completely to pot, so I am permanently exhausted and have now come out in spots!

Still hoping for a miraculous change for the better, but no sign of it yet.

[Gettingthere87]

Every time I drink alcohol it can never be just 1 or 2, every time I drink I just don't stop until I'm really drunk then I gamble 😕i lose all my wages on one stupid night a week, I have pure OCD so I drank before to stop ruminations in my head and I have gotten treatment now in form of tablets but now I feel better there is no need to drink at all but I still do and just ruin everything between me and my wife 😟 would like some advice please

[Intellectualmalaise]

It was a good 3 months for me before I really started to feel the benefit. I was tired, grumpy, rubbish sleep and wondering why the hell I was bothering giving up alcohol when I still felt crap, but it does get better!

As previous poster has already said maybe look at your diet and try and get out for some fresh air daily. I also gave myself permission to feel crap and knew my body was absolutely exhausted from the years of alcohol and wasn’t going to heal over night.

You’re doing so well and if you just hang In there a bit longer, you will start to feel the benefit.