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Mother an alcoholic

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ANON2ANON4ANON7 · 29/03/2022 20:29

Trigger warning: neglect and alcohol abuse.

Without going into much detail my mother has consistently had a problem with drink. Bindge drinking to the point of neglecting her children. There is a lot of other stuff. Putting children before men, drug abuse, narcissistic behaviour etc. I am a grown but my siblings are child-teen aged. I have been concerned for a while now since she got a new boyfriend and seems to be repeating patterns of behaviour from my childhood. I aimed to have my siblings live with me but this is not possible. School contacted social services, however, they have dismissed what my sibling has said. (She convinced us to lie to to SS on the grounds we would never see family again etc would be our fault if we said anything in the past so who knows if this happened again ). The ling and short of it is that she pickwd one of them up from school drunk, literally reeked of it drove off went to the pub and then bought more wine. I wish I had just phoned the police but didn't even think. Do I contact school and tell them the truth? Do I contact SS? Or both? It's Bindge drinking more days out of the week than not.

OP posts:
Quitelikeit · 29/03/2022 20:32

You can contact SS anonymously. Tell them everything you have said above but that you wish to remain anonymous.

They don’t need your name at all.

You are doing the right thing

pointythings · 29/03/2022 21:37

You contact school and next time she picks up drunk, you call the police. It needs to stop. She could kill your siblings, herself, an innocent passer by or all of the above.

Benjaminsniddlegrass · 29/03/2022 22:02

Please call SS, google MASH in your area and that will give you the number for your front door for SS, please share all of this. It would be really helpful if you tell them who you are but you want to remain anonymous. They will 100% respect that and absolutely won't identify you. But it's really helpful for them to be able to understand the context of who is sharing, the fact you have lived this experience and can give real insight into what your siblings are experiencing really helps them understand how to best support & safeguard your sibs.

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