45 units per week !? Too much ?

[vxox]

So , I went on the nhs website on how much units a woman should have per week & it's 14 ! I drink a big bottle of wine every night the bottle is 125cl ? 7.5 units , and I probs drink 6 out of 7 days a week . And that's around 45 units a week ! Didn't realise I was having that much till now .... advice please on how I could stop drinking ? I am finding it hard specially at night time when I want to relax , I always say right that's it no more but then I go and buy some . I wonder if it's effecting my health & mental health . I am finding it hard , I am 23

Don't buy the booze. It might not be affecting your physical health now, but that level is not sustainable long term. It must obviously be costing you an absolute fortune. If you drink all this alone indoors, can't stop buying it, can't stop drinking it,you are an alcoholic. Do you drive, because you are highly likely still over the drink drive limit the following day. Get some help, GP maybe first port of call.

That's a lot of wine. Are you drinking alone? Do you live alone?
Could you find hobbies that get you out of the house on an evening?

Do you buy 7 bottles of wine when you go shopping or do you pop and buy a bottle on your way home? If you buy a bottle each day, leave your purse at home.

Think about how much money you must be spending too. Even a shit bottle of wine is £6 a bottle.

Yes of course it’s too much but you know that really. It’s a huge amount of alcohol - over 3 times the maximum amount recommended. The fact that you keep trying to stop but are unable suggests you have a problem. You could try cutting down, but that may not work for you. I would suggest contacting AA

I think you already know that's a huge amount of alcohol.

Are you able to stop buying it/drinking it? If not then it would be worth looking at getting some support to help you stop for good.

If you are regularly drinking that much I would start with your GP for advise. That is a lot

@nannybeach no I don't drive , but I'm taking lessons . I do drink alone , I have my partner but he doesn't drink at all . Ugh , I'm scared to go to the gp because I have kids .

@girlmom21 I do drink alone yes , I have my partner as said above he doesn't drink .

I buy one each day , I either order from the shop or my partner grabs me a bottle on the way home . The bottle of wine i buy is £4 so tbh adding up each week is quite a lot ...

I am mardy if I don't get wine though which is why I think my partner buys it me , I feel bad I don't get stupidly drunk ... as I actually can't I think I'm used too it now . Just enough to chill out . I realise it's bad now

If you're drinking a whole bottle of wine and not getting particularly drunk that's a concern in itself. You're very young OP, there's plenty of time to turn this around.

Have you considered speaking to your doctor?

Can you find something else to help you relax that you would look forward to in the evening?

Are you really sure that such a big bottle is only 7.5 units? That's very very weak wine. What percentage proof does it say on the bottle?

That isn’t just enough to chill out. The fact you aren’t falling over drunk is because you’ve built up a high tolerance. You’re clearly reliant on the drink and that needs to change. The fact you have kids is the biggest reason you need to get help.

An average bottle of wine is 10 units, x 6 days is a lot. If it £4 a bottle is it a lower alcohol one?

@cataline yes I'm willing to stop buying it but I finding it hard to resist , so now I realise I do actually have a problem 😳

@girlmom21 I'm scared to go to the gp , as I have kids . Also do you know what the gp could do to help if I did ?

@Takeawaytonight it's lambrini only wine I like , it's says 6% ? , 7.5 units a week

As I’ve said your kids are the reason you need to get help. Please contact your GP.

Make an appointment with your GP NOW!
Before you discover you have terminal liver disease.

Let THAT be the thing that scares you. Being scared of going to the GP and getting help is going to guarantee that you get sicker and sicker. You are an alcoholic.

Sorry OP. Tough love.

[quote vxox]@Takeawaytonight it's lambrini only wine I like , it's says 6% ? , 7.5 units a week [/quote]
Sorry 7.5 units in a bottle

The fact that you aren’t getting particularly drunk is a big warning sign as is your admission that you get marry without it. That indicates a level of dependence which is concerning. I find it a bit weird that you would drink regularly alone when your partner doesn’t - I can understand sharing a bottle together socially but it sounds like you are reliant on the alcohol.
Continue with this level of consumption you will do yourself damage in years to come, plus it’s really ageing to be a heavy drinker. My ex was an alcoholic, similar consumption to you. We split when he was around 35 and he looked absolutely haggard/ old before his time and his skin had an awful grey tinge to it.

@heldinadream

Make an appointment with your GP NOW! Before you discover you have terminal liver disease.

Let THAT be the thing that scares you. Being scared of going to the GP and getting help is going to guarantee that you get sicker and sicker. You are an alcoholic.

Sorry OP. Tough love.

Thankyou I will ! Iv had recent blood tests at the docs and everything came back fine , would they be able to tell by bloods ? I'm not showing any symptoms of anything

[quote vxox]@cataline yes I'm willing to stop buying it but I finding it hard to resist , so now I realise I do actually have a problem 😳

@girlmom21 I'm scared to go to the gp , as I have kids . Also do you know what the gp could do to help if I did ? [/quote]
Go to the GP before this intensifies if you have kids.

Nobody will judge you for asking for help, but if you let it get too far without asking for help they will.

They'll be able to refer you to the relevant services who support people with addiction. It won't be an immediate fix but it'll help.

The fact you're scared to go shows that you need to.

The GP isn’t going to be concerned about your children at this point - especially if they have another parent around. They would be concerned if you were staggering around drunk in charge of a child or unconscious lying in your own vomit. Don’t let that be the excuse you use for not getting help.

@EssexLioness

The fact that you aren’t getting particularly drunk is a big warning sign as is your admission that you get marry without it. That indicates a level of dependence which is concerning. I find it a bit weird that you would drink regularly alone when your partner doesn’t - I can understand sharing a bottle together socially but it sounds like you are reliant on the alcohol. Continue with this level of consumption you will do yourself damage in years to come, plus it’s really ageing to be a heavy drinker. My ex was an alcoholic, similar consumption to you. We split when he was around 35 and he looked absolutely haggard/ old before his time and his skin had an awful grey tinge to it.

My partner never has drank any alcohol since Iv met him . Iv always been a social drinker , then stopped going out for lunch with friends etc and then lockdown happened .. I probably started it out of boredom , I don't find it weird drinking alone ? Some people just don't drink and he's one of them .

@Divebar2021

The GP isn’t going to be concerned about your children at this point - especially if they have another parent around. They would be concerned if you were staggering around drunk in charge of a child or unconscious lying in your own vomit. Don’t let that be the excuse you use for not getting help.

Yeah I suppose ! I'm definitely going to give the gp a call .. my kids are always fine always tucked up in bed fast asleep before I even think of having a opening a drink , Thankyou for your reply x

Good luck…. You can turn this around x

@vxox, it makes sense that it started out of boredom. I don’t drink either so maybe that skews my idea of normal, however you have also lost sight of what is normal drinking so I’m not sure what the real answer is. I could understand having the odd glass of wine cos you enjoy it, but needing it almost every night and necking a bottle to yourself each time is very far from normal behaviour. Problem is, your body gets used to the alcohol as you are already finding out (not feeling drunk despite drinking huge amounts). If you don’t get the help you need now you will end up needing more, maybe a couple of bottles a night, or a bottle plus some vodka etc. it’s how these things often progress.

@EssexLioness

Yeah definitely , I sometimes find myself drinking peach snaps after if Iv ran out 🤦🏼‍♀️ i just thought the wine was weak that's why I don't feel anything but I guess my body's gotten that used to it !! Thankyou I'm definitely going to seek some help or just try my best to quit