Any positive stories about relationships being saved?

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Hi

Does anyone have any positive stories where their relationship was over. The injured party was so destroyed and upset they never ever wanted anything to do with the drinker.

But eventually over time things were healed?

I guess I'm trying to find some chink of hope.

I posted on your other thread. My relationship may not have been destroyed. But it most certainly was at the point of do something or get out of my life. I did something.

I've meet many people in AA who's relationships/ marriages have recovered. From your other post it sounds like you DH is really upset and that is understandable. But it didn't sound like it was really truly all over.

Honestly as someone from a family which has loads of alcholics I think you need to accept that what will happen with your relationship will happen.

You could try your best and it still be too late to fix. But that's not the reason you are getting help to stop drinking. Or at least not the whole reason.

If your sobriety is mainly based on keeping your marriage together, it won't end well. Either he will feel he can't leave you, then resent you. Or you will likey relapse.

You don't want to be with you because he has to be Or he is trapped thinking you will relapse if he leaves. You want him to be there because he chooses to be. Him feeling trapped and like he holds your recovery in his hands would be you abusing him further.

Are you drinking while posting this, OP? Your priority has to be your own sobriety, while respecting your ex-partners boundaries.

I know two couples where one partner was an alcoholic. The one couple actually got divorced but he gave up drinking and they got back together (he's never drunk since), sadly the others just got divorced.