Hello, I'm posting here because I guess you all know the signs etc to watch for/or are going through it yourself. I think my BF is an alcoholic or most certainly heading that way.. he drinks several rum and cokes every night, we don't live together and when he's back at his place he drinks in excess, he will drink all night until the early hours and not wake up until the afternoon/late morning (on a good day) he replaced smoking weed 24/7 with alcohol a year or so ago, but now he's smoking weed and drinking every night (he has nights without weed and tonight is the first night without alcohol) he's feeling pretty shit, nauseous/shakes/anxiety/irritable/like his body is shutting down etc.
I've noticed the alcoholism for a while but in the past if I brought it up he'd get defensive and say he isn't hurting anyone/he can do what he wants etc. Tonight is the only time he's admitted he's got a problem with drinking heavily. I am of course concerned and worried about him. I know he won't go to the GP/Alcohol support services etc he's said as much and sort of belittled me when I suggested it because the doctors aren't seeing anyone because of Covid (he's right the one we are registered aren't unless its an emergency and there's absolutely zero chance you could have covid) but my first thought was to involve a medical professional who is better able to handle this with him.
He is full of self loathing and depression (he will deny this) there's nothing i can do or say when he's like this, nothing will cheer him up etc
The reason I'm asking for advice is because I am completely tee total (mostly because I'm emetaphobic) and I haven't a clue how to handle this situation.
If its any relevance he only drinks at night, occasionally around dinner time at the weekend but once he's started he won't stop until he goes to bed.
He's agreed to not drink every night but I worry this will be temporary until he doesn't feel physically unwell anymore.