Alcoholic Parent

[Smithy92]

Good Evening,

I'm looking for some advice regarding my alocholic dad. He's always drunk his whole life, and has progressively got worse over the last 3/4 years since retiring. When lockdown started he was drinking 35cl of Vodka a day, and has since upped it to 70cl a day as well as a few beers.

Im pretty sure he's at end stage alcoholism, he now has alcohol induced gastritis where he is in constant stomach pain, with acid also burning away at his throat.
When he had his last liver test (4/5 months ago) was just past fatty liver stage.
His memory has completely gone and is now irrational, unpredictable, angry, confused, and frequently crying.
Alongside this his hygiene is Now non existent, and he hasn't eaten for a week at this point.

He's been through every sort of help (tablets, rehab, interventions, psychiatric help, support groups etc), realistically assuming things don't change ASAP I presume it will be irreversible (if it isn't already). How long will his body continue to put up with that level of abuse? I appreciate that's a broad question but any help would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance

I’m so sorry, that sounds unbearable. I don’t have any advice as such, I’ve known one person who began as a functioning (for want of words) alcoholic. It went on for years and her drinking slowly increased, she was drunk at work, had ascites and lost her job. She was lucky enough to get a liver transplant and although a shadow of her former self she seems to have recovered.
It will vary from person to person how long it takes to damage you, so it’s difficult to give a timeline.

I would phone his G.P and see if anything can be done for him, I appreciate this may not be possible if he refuses- which sounds likely.

Giving you a bump.

He's not your responsibility OP but in an ideal world he should be at least eating well. Certain foods help the liver into recovery (this is just what I've been advised by dr's while dealing with an alcoholic bf I don't purport to have any qualification).
The obvious is for him to reduce his alcohol intake.
Poor guy and poor you. It's a heartless illness. 💐

OP you need professional help both for him and his family. It's a tough road.

This is so sad. My father sounds very similar and he unfortunately passed away a few months ago due to liver failure. You could try to get him help but unfortunately you can’t force him or indeed do it for him. I really feel
for you as it’s a totally impossible situation.

Thanks for all the messages above. He's unfortunately had practically all professional help around but lies to them (my mum now has to voice record / video the changes in mood etc to show them). GP too unfortunately no help as he refuses to see as Suzi noted above.

Somehow he only has Bloating from liver symptoms so still hope there I guess. At the moment his stomach is just doing worse but I'm sure his liver will catch up pretty quickly at this rate.

He's managed to pull back to around 60cl vodka a day and touched some breakfast today so small positives but I fear it won't be enough quick enough.

It’s such a worry and so frustrating. Let me know if you want to talk and I really hope your dad manages to cut down! Take care

@Newuser82 Have PMd, thanks for that.

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Have answered x

Did anyone ever find their relevant person almost Urging in pain every single breath? As in every breath my dad takes at the moment he's almost huffing in pain (literally every single exhale). I'm worried a lot

The only advice I can give you is that YOU need to go to an Al Anon group. Please go, and keep going back (you'll see what I mean). X