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Am I over reacting or am I right to be annoyed?

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m1r14m · 26/09/2021 11:16

I had my daughter 11 days ago, the pregnancy was horrible but I've found the recovery after birth quite easy as I luckily didn't need many stitches etc, however I've felt the past couple of days have really caught up with me and I've been an emotional wreck. Last night my partner was to have two people over after his football game to meet the baby, after this one of them was going to be staying to watch the boxing and I was fine with this. But it turned out one of his friends couldn't come anymore and instead of just cancelling he essentially substituted other people in his friends place and there ended up being 5 of them here drinking and watching the boxing. I messaged him to say I wasn't comfortable with this and as I'm breast feeding and not comfortable doing it in front of people, especially people I don't know I didn't find it fair that I'd have to go to my room and bf alone. Anyway I ended up taking myself to the bedroom to feed and I just felt extremely overwhelmed and I sat through there crying my eyes out. I absolutely wasn't ready at all to have people over for that long or for them to be drinking either. They didn't end up leaving until 1am and I sat in the bedroom crying this whole time. After they left I came through and said that's not happening again, said I felt uncomfortable in my own home and I wasn't ready for that at all and basically just got 'if you felt uncomfortable sorry but it wasn't that bad'. I've cried all night and actually feel like he doesn't give a fuck because I told him how I felt and it just didn't matter because he was getting to drink so why would he care how I feel??? Anyway he's hungover so is still asleep in bed, I've got an extremely upset baby as she has a sore tummy and I'm so overwhelmed and I feel like I'm getting no help. Am I right to be pissed off for last night or am I just being hormonal given ive legit given birth less than two weeks ago

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SoberSept21 · 26/09/2021 12:19

Hi OP,
I absolutely would have felt the same had my DP done that 11 days after I gave birth. We had family over for a cup of tea at that stage and we did go to the pub for a meal but no way would I have had strangers in my house. Yes, you will be feeling the effect of hormones too.
You might not get much traffic here though as you've posted in alcohol support, you may want to ask MNHQ to move to relationships? Good luck

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