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Emergency stop button pressed

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littlemiss93 · 15/09/2021 07:10

That's it basically! Here I am 7am shaky and regretful .. two kids to get to school looking like death. I have to stop this nonsense, I'm far more productive when I'm not drinking. I have a business to run and house to keep, not to mention two kids to look after. Today is the day I stop before I sink any further down this drain hole. I shall use this thread to rant when 6 o'clock hits and the wine is calling me. If your in the same position and need some support feel free to join me! If your AF and can offer support I'd love to hear from you.

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Onyernelly · 15/09/2021 07:18

I’m tentatively knocking it on the head op. I appear to have taken up drinking as a hobby during lockdown that is hard to break.
Be kind to yourself today - drink plenty of water Flowers

You can do it 💪💪💪

Mybalconyiscracking · 15/09/2021 07:21

Good luck to you both, my Dad was alcohol dependent, it isn’t a road you want to head down.
I wish you both well. Flowers

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littlemiss93 · 15/09/2021 07:31

@Onyernelly same for me.. wasn't really a drinker beforehand. Now I knock back a bottle a night if the mood takes me 😳 wouldn't be so bad if I knew when to stop.. I don't. Last night I shared half a bottle with my H but that wasn't enough so I worked my way through the gin. No reason for it at all. My head this morning is telling me the obvious.. today is day one AF for sure.

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BigGreen · 15/09/2021 07:46

Have some little things ready that you can do when you get that 'ahh the day is over I need a drink'. I've got nice fruit to eat, lovely hand cream, essential oils burner to put on etc.

Onyernelly · 15/09/2021 08:00

It was strange last week when we had friends over. One of our guests was drinking red wine and he had enough so refused the last glass in the bottle - I actually stood rooted to the spot very confused thinking ‘ but the bottles nearly finished - just finish the bottle 🤷‍♀️.
That was a moment of reflection the next day…

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littlemiss93 · 15/09/2021 08:21

@BigGreen that's a good tip.! I used to like cleaning after doing the kids tea - like my wrap up of the day. Im going to focus on that and a nice green tea once I've sat down. The cleaning has completely gone out the window in the past year.. I gave up in the first lockdown as the kids were home and it was pointless ☺️ that's when the 'one glass of wine' kicked in. Hearing the news yesterday that we may well be faced with yet another 'stay at home' scenario I absolutely must kick the booze!! I kind of envied these people who took up running and fitness, something I used to do often before wine.

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BigGreen · 15/09/2021 09:28

I bought myself some nice new glasses that I really like, and some wanky dried fruit and garnishes for my tonic (no gin in it!). Trying to make it the same kind of ritual, I guess :)

JustWorriedSick · 15/09/2021 13:49

My advice (334 days AF) is one day at a time. Be prepared for the little voice in your head popping up at your usual drinking time. It's a great idea to have other treats to get you through the first bit.
I read a shedload of quit lit and it really helped. Also follow sober pages on Instagram and they always give you a nice reminder why you are taking this step.
It does get easier. I genuinely don't think about having a drink now, and I was drinking most evenings before.

Driftingblue · 15/09/2021 14:14

As an adult child of an alcoholic, I just wanted to offer you some support. When you feel like faltering, remember that if your kids are young, they may not thank you some day. That is because of you stop now you may give them the type of childhood many of us wished for. They will grow up without even realizing what you have done. If they are older, they will know and they will appreciate your efforts more than you can imagine.

PascowV · 15/09/2021 14:42

@Onyernelly

It was strange last week when we had friends over. One of our guests was drinking red wine and he had enough so refused the last glass in the bottle - I actually stood rooted to the spot very confused thinking ‘ but the bottles nearly finished - just finish the bottle 🤷‍♀️. That was a moment of reflection the next day…

Ha I'm the same Grin

I took the last glass to bed with me the other night because I "had to" finish it.

I've restricted myself now to 1 bottle a week, weekend only.

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littlemiss93 · 23/09/2021 19:42

Just popping on here to see if anyone is around and still trying to stay AF. I'm still trying .. failed a little but back to try again. Listening to a podcast at the gym yesterday really hit home. 😞

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SheWoreYellow · 23/09/2021 19:45

Have you read any books?

I found ‘The unexpected joy of being sober’ to be life changing.

And a few other books.

The two messages that made the most impact on me were:

The first half a glass of wine is great. What about the third/fourth? Because that’s where you’re going after the first.

Any situation that ‘needs’ alcohol is probably a bit crap in the first place.

Good luck Smile

Keep talking.

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littlemiss93 · 23/09/2021 19:56

Thanks @SheWoreYellow I've just this minute downloaded that book as it had been mentioned on here before. Something has clicked, I'm actually a bit scared of who I'm becoming with alcohol, the podcast was a little hard to listen to as I was nodding thinking f*ck this sounds familiar. I know this won't be easy but I'm giving my all. I can't be that person not anymore, this is not just for me, my children cannot grow up seeing mummy with a wine glass in her hand at tea time daily.

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babasaclover · 23/09/2021 20:05

I'd like to join too. I'm in the same rut. What dies AF mean?

SheWoreYellow · 23/09/2021 20:08

Alcohol free Smile

Catrina1999 · 23/09/2021 20:12

OP have you considered looking at any local support groups ? My mother really struggled with drinking throughout my childhood but is now 5 years sober and I don't think she could have managed without her support group . She has made a few really good friends through them who are always only a message away if she's struggling and vice versa .She has family support but I think she finds it easier and more helpful to talk to them as they've been in the same position. I hope you're doing okay Smile

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littlemiss93 · 23/09/2021 20:48

I'm considering this option actually, but virtually through a support group. The podcast took me to a Instagram page then onto a website which was all very informative. There 1-1 sessions and group sessions which I'm going to give some thought to.

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littlemiss93 · 23/09/2021 20:49

Hey @babasaclover feel free to hang out and go Alcohol Free with me. 🤗

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Rainallnight · 23/09/2021 20:53

Would it help with the end of day feeling if you had an alcohol free beer?

I find that very helpful if I have that feeling - there’s something about the ritual of ‘having a drink’ that’s nice even without the alcohol

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littlemiss93 · 24/09/2021 06:49

I've never had beer! Wine or gin is my choice of drink. Mostly wine. Anyway went to bed at 10 with a cup of tea, got to sleep eventually ☺️ up early, feeling far less regretful this morning.

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BunniesBunniesBunnies · 24/09/2021 06:52

Well done! If you’re giving up alcohol, feel free to join us on the Freedom thread. I was much like you and gave up booze 18 months ago. I cannot tell you how much better I feel🤩 It’s not even 7am yet, I’m up with the children and I feel GREAT. About to go for a run. Lots of support available on the thread I mentioned, come and join us there😊

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littlemiss93 · 24/09/2021 14:11

Thank you @BunniesBunniesBunnies I'll most definitely join you.

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Adm1010 · 24/09/2021 17:02

@littlemiss93 the thread is helping me stay sober it’s definitely worth jumping in

indiesearcher · 17/11/2021 00:53

How's it going @littlemiss93 ?

I could have written your first post. I pressed stop on Nov 3rd.

TintagliaRises · 18/11/2021 10:45

Also pressing the emergency stop button after a weekend of horrendous excess, to the point where my children noticed how drunk I was. My husband is, not for the first time, furious with me, and I was a massive pain to him and my friends. I'm ashamed to say that I just kept going. I have ruined a much looked forward to holiday and am now back at work with nausea, sweats and crippling anxiety. It's clear that moderation does not work for me and I think I finally have to bite the bullet and accept that I can't drink alcohol without risking my health and my relationship.