OYNB used to be free, it had supportive threads on it but it was like the alcohol support threads on here tbh.
Overnight it threw us all out & you could then only log in if you signed up anew & paid. Appalling.
Anyhow, despite the supportive threads on OYNB it didn’t work for me. I drank & drank for loads more years.
It was loitering on the alcohol support threads on mums net that, after a few false starts, finally got me AF.
Just take it one day at a time

I am in sober groups on Facebook but I never would have quit drinking so happily and easily if I hadn't read Craig Beck Alcohol Lied to Me. I haven't looked back. I was a daily drinker. I'm now 2.5 years Alcohol free.

That’s incredible @Northernsoullover! Good for you on being 2.5 years sober. Today is Day 6 for me and I’m already worried about upcoming social events in September and October. However, a part of me likes the idea of challenging myself to go to these events/occasions without drinking.

@Quick99I haven’t tried OYNB but I did the Alcohol Experiment (Annie Grace) twice. I gave up for the 30 days both times but went straight back go my old habits afterwards even though I listened to her podcasts too, Old habits really do die hard.

I’m on the Freedom from Alcohol thread here & I think that’s going to give me a safe place to go and some accountability.

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@Quick99
I was getting to the point I was buying extra alcohol and hiding it from DH so when we were both having drinks I was having more than he realised.
I scared myself and just knew enough was enough.
On holiday in the U.K. one year I watched a little old man with a wheeled Walker shuffle to the public bin and put in a wine bottle then shuffle back home. Obviously hiding the amount he was drinking from whoever was caring for/visiting him. I didn’t want that to be my future.

I read the unexpected joy of being sober and, although not being a drinker at the authors level, I knew I could be heading that way so it spurred me on. I’ve accepted that I can not moderate my drinking and that I have to be teetotal. 1 year and 6 weeks sober.

www.worldofbooks.com/en-gb/books/catherine-gray/unexpected-joy-of-being-sober/9781912023387?gclid=CjwKCAjwmqKJBhAWEiwAMvGt6C7DdkyTllSQGqDwskCcPOyX0U-aa0GcO95iVsC5t5euNo6HArw7rBoC2BcQAvD_BwE

No one ever wakes up and regrets not drinking the night before is also something I would tell myself in the early evening as I started to get twitchy.
I would have an early shower and leave my hair wet so stop myself dashing out to the shop for alcohol.
DH still drinks occasionally & I can happily let him without feeling the need to have any myself.

@Northernsoullover that’s amazing!

@Perriwinkles good for you stopping again. I’ve happily ditched social events when I’ve thought it would be too difficult or been the one to drive -unthinkable in the past!

Hi op I did look into this last year after reading about it on Mumsnet. I went onto their website and watched a video with a liver doctor who said that it was suitable for people with a mild to moderate drink problem. I had a serious alcohol dependency by that stage and decided it wasn't fir me. I went to Cgl instead and that was more suited to people like me. I also subscribed to Soberistas in the past and that didn't work for me either but I think it does for lots of people? I think you have to judge the severity of your problem, if it's a case of drinking too much over lockdown and getting into bad habits then something like OYNB might work.

HI LCHF, cgl stands for change,grow,live, there are 2 local branches to me but I think it is nationwide. It is free to use and you can self refer. I was triaged then had a very long assessment done over the phone at that time. I was then assigned a support worker and also had an appointment with the alcohol nurse. They can organise a medical detox if needed and can prescribe medication if needed. They have a variety of peer support activities, I attend a zoom peer support meeting once a week. I have found it very good although it is an intense and hard process. Nine months sober now less 20 days where I have lapsed. This is much better than I have ever done before. I have kept a diary. The meetings are chaired by a support worker who gives advice, they have said however that plenty of people who use the service are still "bang at it."

I don't know much about OYNB as I say I am just going from what the doctor said in the video which was on their own website. There area variety of different routes to recovery, some people will suit one approach, some another.