I need advice as I am pregnant and my midwife has referred us to social services due to partners addiction issues.
Back story: my partner would take cocaine on nights out with friends maybe once or twice a month. I then became pregnant and he decided not to do it anymore as it affects his anxiety (he worries about his heart) One morning when my baby was about 7 months old I had a call early in the morning I assumed it would be from my partner as he had been out with friends. It was from the ER. My partner had went in because he thought his heart was going too fast and I was informed he had taken cocaine. I was shocked and angry.
But when my partner got home I realised the issue was bigger than him just taking it socially. He broke down and told me he knows it's a problem as he can't go out for a drink with friends without doing it. He'd been out 5 or 6 times since our baby was born.
My HV had been notified of his visit to the ER and called. By this point my partner had already joined Alcoholics Anonymous, went to a meeting every day and was trying to get a sponsor. She was happy that he had found support and just wanted to let us know there were other options as well. She visited to do my babies check up and was happy with his progress and didn't really mention my partners issue apart from to ask how he was.
I have now found out I am pregnant and in my call with the midwife when she asked about drug use I advised my partner is in a program and has been sober since, this is about a month and half later. She has advised that she had to refer us to social services. Naturally I am worried that mine or my partners commitment to caring for our children properly will be questioned. I am not sure what happens next and really just want to know if anyone has an experience or advice with this?
My partner has never been drunk or on drugs around our baby. And our baby is happy, healthy and developing well & we have lots of support around us.