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Alcohol support
Partners drinking
Cartrons · 17/07/2021 15:45
I’m nearly two years Alcohol free. One of the main reasons I stopped was because my partner had a drink problem and I knew the nights I fancied one weren’t helping.
Nowadays he doesn’t drink anywhere like he used to but maybe once or twice a week he’ll make up an excuse to stay out and he will binge drink. In his car, then drive home.
It’s getting unbearable, it’s the being lies too. We’ve talked and talked this through, he’s had more than one last chance and he’s promised to get help.
Every bit of advice I have is to leave him ( or have him leave- the home is mine)
I hurt on a level I can’t explain, has anyone else been through this?
Cartrons · 17/07/2021 16:04
Clymene, I’ve tried that but unfortunately they’ve said that unless I’ve seen him in his vehicle drinking then they can not do anything. The fact that I know the routine and I just know when he’s doing it is not enough for them to act.
Clymene · 17/07/2021 17:13
Sorry the authorities are no help. I've not been where you are but all I can say is that you can't change someone else, you can only change the way you respond to their behaviour. You know that already - you've stopped drinking in an effort to get him to stop and it hasn't made a blind bit of difference.
He isn't going to change so either you carry on like you are until there is a crisis - he kills someone/has a terrible accident/something else that crosses a line - or you end your relationship.
Have you considered Al Anon?
I'm sorry, it sounds like a bloody miserable way to live 
Cartrons · 17/07/2021 18:03
@Clymene thank you. I’m just looking into Al Anon. You’re right it is a miserable way to live and there will be a crisis before long. His health is already suffering.
Thanks for your replies. 😘
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