I've had enough of making excuses for him, stress at work, hates his job. He's just had 2 weeks off and started drinking cider at 12 pm everyday and then a bottle of wine to himself at dinner. He can become aggressive and mean. Everything we do together involves going to a pub, even a trip to the beach or out for Sunday lunch, of course I always drive. I enjoy a social drink with friends, a couple of shandies or glass of wine if we've walked to our local.
on Saturday he met his brother in our local, his brother was driving so I assumed he'd be an hour maybe 2, he left at 3 and came back at 6 then continued to drink. It doesn't sound like a big deal I know but he's stupid when drunk and embarassing. I'm hypersensitive as my late mum drank a lot when I was a child. Yesterday was the same, pub at lunchtime and then carried on at home, rolled his eyes and sneered when I said remember you're up early for work tomorrow. I went to bed early and read in the spare room but I heard him get up twice and then the fridge opening so know he was still drinking.
He's gone to work but I stayed upstairs as didn't want an argument. Were in our 50s, no dc at home. I've contacted al anon this morning, only online meeting and at 7.15 pm so hard as he'd be home.
Sorry it's so long. I've decided not to buy any alcohol anymore as I can't be part of his drinking. I've suggested he see his gp about stress, depression. Tried to talk to him about his feelings, he just says I'm fine and I like a drink. I know he is unwell but don't know what else to do. I have decided not to drink alcohol. I am fed up of feeling like this, wishing he would change or leave 😪