Binge drinking

[Adventuresat40]

I am not a massive drinker - usual intake around a bottle of wine shared with my DH on a Saturday night.

However, once or twice a year I get out of control drunk when out with friends.

I did this last Saturday, couldn't remember getting home and wasted Sunday laying in bed with a hangover. I still feel the anxiety and can't bear to read messages I have received since. DH is pretty furious with me.

I need to stop it. I think the only way is to give up drinking altogether - I cannot seem to stop once I have more than a couple of drinks. I am going to take it one month at a time.

I have a few social events lined up in June and I plan not to drink at those at all. Then see how it goes.

Is anyone else in the same boat? I feel pretty ashamed of myself. I am 40 and a mother FGS.

[FuckingFabulous]

I've recently decided to give up alcohol, as soon as I realised I was looking forward to a glass of wine (or three) most nights, that felt too close to being a problem habit for comfort. So yes, I'm giving it up.

[Adventuresat40]

Thanks @FuckingFabulous good luck with it.

I never really set out with the intention of getting rip roaring drunk - I literally go out with the intention of having one drink after work and end up rolling in at midnight - drunk. So, I think giving up altogether is better for me.

I have been reading threads and think, actually, my target is going to be 100 days. That takes me up to the new school year. I think I will then assess whether I can keep my drinking to that one bottle of wine with DH or whether it will blur the lines and lead to another binge.

It does feel hard thinking that I will never drink again though. That can't be good.

[FuckingFabulous]

Well, not really something to feel bad over.... it's ok to enjoy a drink. It's ok to enjoy chocolate, icecream etc, even though they're not really good for us. Alcohol is enjoyable to many otherwise it wouldn't be sold. But you have recognised a problem with your response to it and I want to avoid developing a genuine issue with consumption. I don't want it to be a nightly routine or a crutch like it is for so many. I think if I can go ages without having a drink, I might allow myself a glass every now and then. But at the moment it's become an expense and for me, it's an issue