My DP and I have been together for about a year, our relationship is perfectly normal and functional. We drink ‘normally’ I think- he has one or two beers a couple of evenings a week and we share a couple of bottles of wine over the weekend. There is always spirits in the house, Christmas presents, leftover from parties etc, but they just stay there unless we fancy one.
DP had some bad news yesterday, a very close friend of him betrayed him over something, he was very upset.
I went out for a few hours and when I came back I could tell he was drunk. He wasn’t completely wasted, but his eyes were glassy and his speech was a bit slurred.
I asked him if he had drank and he said no, I didn’t believe him and asked him to swear he hadn’t which he did.
I couldn’t shake the feeling so I went to the cupboard and found that a third of a bottle of whisky (brand new unopened bottle from xmas) had been drank. I confronted him with it and he admitted he had drank it because he was stressed. I asked why he had lied and he said he didn’t know.
I feel totally betrayed by his lying, he slept downstairs on the sofa and we haven’t spoken this morning. I’m worried that if this is how we responds to stress we might have a longer term issue.
Has anyone experienced this? Should I trust it’s a one off or could this be a red flag?