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Alcohol support

Is hiding booze always a bad sign?

29 replies

DearTeddyRobinson · 11/04/2021 19:13

My H is a heavy drinker which has pushed our marriage to breaking point. He finally admitted last week at our first marriage counselling session that he's been drinking a bit too much of late (totally minimising it but more than he's ever admitted before).
Anyway earlier this evening I was rummaging around in the loft/eaves (we have a loft conversion so storage is basically small cupboards in the eaves), looking for jumpers.
Found a can of beer hidden on a shelf. The kind H drinks (Punk IPA). I've found cans in the bin in that bedroom before but just assumed he'd taken them up with him. He often sleeps up there as he snores really badly when he's been drinking, so I have no idea what time he goes to bed, or what state he's in.
Why would he hide beer up there? He usually keeps it in the fridge and I have long since given up asking him how much he's had to drink. So he could keep all he wanted in the fridge.
Is this the same mentality as hiding vodka in the toilet cistern, per my totally uninformed assumptions about alcoholics?
Or is it just a can he'd left to chill or whatever? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

OP posts:

Nonmaquillee · 14/04/2021 16:23

Yes - my ex husband was a big boozer. His drinking caused the marriage to break down. I once found vodka in the garden shed as well as the airing cupboard.
It's not a positive sign at all.


girlofnow · 14/04/2021 16:29

I think the fact that he's a heavy drinker and you're concerned about it is what to focus on. I don't think he's hiding it, sounds like he's just taken it up to have a drink in bed and didn't drink it. As you said, no need for him to hide it anyway. You already know he's drinking too much.


Bluntness100 · 14/04/2021 16:32

I honestly don’t think finding a can of beer where he sleeps is the issue to get hung up on. The issue is he binge drinks to excess alone every couple of weeks. That’s the issue you need to address. Not if a random tin of beer is a bad sign. The bad sign is him sitting getting plastered alone.


pointythings · 18/04/2021 16:42

One tin of beer in a loft wouldn't make me see red flags. My late husband was an alcoholic and he had bottles everywhere - in the underbed storage, in the pockets of his clothes in the closet, in the empty mini suitcase at the foot of the bed. He always had something on the go in his backpack too, so he could top up at work.

I have a bottle of wine in my bedroom that I was given on holiday in Greece last August. I just keep forgetting to bring it downstairs.

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