Can't do it anymore

[dioden]

Have drank a bottle of wine sometimes more every day for the past three years due to divorce etc

I'm a mess. Anxiety , depression, shakes etc

Where do I even begin? I'm scared but know I need to do it x

One step at a time.

You've done the hardest step, identifying that you have a problem.

The next step is to seek help for the anxiety and depression, your GP or AA can signpost you to support. They NHS has a self referral in place for talking therapies which is easy to fill out and start.

Then it's day by day. You can do this.

Hi @dioden - I am a binge drinker although the time between the binges has been getting shorter. I would speak to GP as suggested. You may need to taper off ie cut down over a time frame to avoid serious withdrawal effects. I am day 1 again after disgracing myself at the weekend. I’ve run out of chances so this must be it this time. Good luck - it’s hard but it will be worth it

Hope you're feeling a little better today :)

Don't just suddenly stop cold turkey or you'll go through extreme detox which can be physically very dangerous.

Really the best thing you can do is look at why you're using alcohol to self soothe. Psychotherapy support is a really good way to start. If you can identify what's happening for you and build ways to make yourself feel better, you'll need the booze less.

Also, tapering off is the way forward, so I wonder if you could find something nice for you to distract yourself when you are tempted to reach to pour the bottle as 'normal'? Maybe change glasses to different, smaller ones, so your changing your 'routine' in subtle ways. Drink in a different chair or room of the house, that sort of thing. Anything that works for you.

But more than anything, look after yourself. Get the support you need and really look after yourself.
Vitamin B is your best friend too!