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Tell me some good words to say to my DS

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DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 08:18

My DS is in his early 20’s and enjoying life, as I did at that age.
My DH is reliant on a bottle of wine a night.
I want to say something to my son, something that says I don’t want to stop him enjoying himself while he’s young, but I don’t want him to become reliant on alcohol like his dad.
It will need to be short, while I’ve got his attention, but not seeming to blame his dad a such ( they’re close and I think criticism would make it look like I’m nagging and a party pooper ).
Help !

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Sharonthecat · 14/03/2021 08:23

May I ask why it needs to be short? I would suggest you have a proper conversation about it, you don't need to mention his Dad.
I understand it's possibly a difficult subject to approach, but he is an adult.

DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 08:27

Short because his tolerance to the subject would be short.

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DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 08:29

I think that if his dad wasn’t reliant I wouldn’t be concerned. I know alcoholism can run in families so I want him to be aware.

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TroysMammy · 14/03/2021 08:32

My friend said in the past, not about me, just generally "you can be just one drink away from being an alcoholic"

Blueuggboots · 14/03/2021 08:43

He's already an alcoholic if he's reliant on a bottle of wine a night. You need to be expressing that clearly.

DinosaurDiana · 14/03/2021 09:58

I want to do it in a way that I’m not criticising or having a go at his dad, because then he will switch off. I want him to see that it comes from a place of love, I want to plant a seed so that he thinks about it and comes to his own decision.
What I personally think about his father’s drinking is another matter.

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weaselwords · 14/03/2021 10:02

Actions speak louder than words in this situation. Show by your deeds.

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