When partner with alcohol issues is enabling partner who wants to cut down

[JamMakingWannaBe]

So OH has an alcohol problem but this post is about me not him.

I will admit that I probably overindulge more than I should but partly the reason is he buys alcohol (wine) as part of the grocery shop.

When it's in the house, it's difficult to "resist". For example, today I took the DC out for the afternoon. He'd already started on the cider before 2pm. When I get back, he's done the grocery shop (walk not drive) and has bought me a bottle of wine as he's bought one for himself. On a Sunday night I generally do not need a glass of wine but...

Should I literally just pour the bottle he's bought me down the sink?

Wrap it up and give it as an Xmas gift
Before 2pm isn't normal is my opinion
I've just kicked my alcoholic husband out on Saturday and this is the kind of thing he used to do
I'd already gone T total so I could track how much alcohol was in the house easier and to have a better moral high ground as like you I was also rather partial . But not in a 2pm 3 bottles of wine a night kind of way like Dh

Sorry you already know he has issues so you'll already know it's not normal so ignore that
But I'd ask him not to buy you anything in future
It's a slippery slope

I have asked him not to buy me wine - either midweek or on a Sunday (a bottle over a Fri/Sat night is ok) - he just does it, I think, to make himself feel better about his own drinking.
It's supermarket wine so not really suitable for re-gifting but that was a great suggestion.
I like the "miniature" one glass bottles you can get (to help me self-control my own drinking) but he just says "they didn't have any" (?) and buys me a full 750ml bottle instead. It just annoys me that that £6.50 could instead be spent on "proper" groceries (meat, bread, washing powder etc).
I agree, it's a slippery slope, and I want to get off it.
Maybe I'll pour myself a glass and the rest down the sink.

An indirectly relevant point - google the "sunk -costs fallacy". I think that's the trap you're falling into when you decide between drinking the wine and pouring it down the sink.

We all feel that pouring it down the sink is somehow wasteful and that drinking it is not. But that's the fallacy. The £6.50 has already been wasted buying something you don't want. The only difference between drinking it and pouring it away is the effect on your health!

Take it back for a refund if money is tight.